…okay, but *did* you string her along well after you knew you were in love with someone else? Or did it happen organically? Because that is a significant factor on whether this is a FYL or YDI, in my opinion.

Well, given the language you are using in this post, it seems like you give zero f**ks about what you put her through. You were her fiancee, she was looking forward to spending the rest of her life with you. And then you just, to put it in your words "dump her". And you left her for someone else, making her feel worthless. You shattered her trust, not only in you, but for other prospective suitors as well. I understand that you had feelings for someone else, but given the level of consideration I'm seeing, just from this post alone, it seems like you approached the situation indelicately. She feels abandoned. I don't blame those around her for seeing you as the bad guy.

Knew a young woman whose fiancée threatened to off himself if she ever left him. That was total emotional manipulation. In general, no one is obligated to stay with someone in a relationship, and I’ve seen people use the threat of self harm to emotionally manipulate their partner so I’d give you the benefit of the doubt.

I hope your “current “ love interest dumps your sorry ass

id say the leaving her for another person is probably your part in all this, so you didn't just end a relationship simply, you betrayed her and ended the relationship, that would def cause high amount of pain, what she does with the pain is her choice, but you did stick the gun in her back and expect her to smile and move on?

Riiight, you sound really torn up about how this affects *you*. I sense zero concern for your ex-fiancée. F her life, not yours.

You are the bad guy. I hope the other woman appreciates what a bastard you are and ruins your life. Dumping you would be letting you off easy -- I hope she gets her hooks into you and makes you pay for eternity.

you are the bad guy. you had a commitment to this woman. she was planning on spending the rest of her life with you. your job, if you caught feelings for someone else, was to back away from them and honor your fiancee. so much for love and commitment

I hope this next girl string you along until engagement then drops you like a bag of rocks. Just like you did

100 points for reading comprehension everyone. Everyone deserves happiness. " it wasn’t fair to her for me to string her along when I had feelings for someone else." IE he did not string her along and ended the relationship. This is emotional manipulation and nothing more. Its a weak move by weak minded people (granted may just be weak in the moment).