By Anonymous - 13/03/2021 23:30 - United Kingdom - Gloucester
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Good sex is a learned skill. And both partners have some responsibility for their own pleasure - Do not assume your pleasure is purely up to your partner. Chances are your partner was about as inexperienced as you. Real sex is not like the porn videos. It usually takes a female longer to “get there” than the male. As a woman, you are a lot more likely to “get there” from oral sex (To the clitoris), but there is no reason you cannot have it more than one way. Communication is key and in having enjoyable sex, your partner needs to know what turns you on, what feels good, and what doesn’t. Don’t just assume they know. Be diplomatic, but be honest. And listen to your partner too - Chances are that the more your partner enjoys the experience the more they will try to please you.
As a man, it's important to me to go the extra mile to make sure my wife "get's there" and enjoys herself. If she has more fun doing it, then she's willing to do it more often, so it's kind of a win-win situation. Just help your partner understand that.