Today, the guy I live with demanded that I get a job or start paying rent. It'd be perfectly reasonable, if he wasn't my husband, and if I hadn't just given birth to our first child. FML
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Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, after presenting my husband with a more than fair request to pay me an hourly wage for being a stay-at-home mom, he laughed his ass off and told me if I want money so badly, I could get a job. He'd rather strangers in daycare raise our babies than pay me what I'm worth. FML
Today, I asked my boyfriend to help me with groceries, since the last of my money went to last week's groceries. His response was to start a fight, then tell me it's my fault my daughter acts the way she does, which is when he finally got me to break down and cry. I'm pregnant with his kid, and I also pay 90% of our bills. FML
Today, my fiancé and I had a fight over household expenses. He's never had a job in his life, but this didn't stop him demanding that I get another full-time job to pay for video games and beer. FML
Today, my boyfriend of two years completely lost it because last night I told him I wanted to move to a less remote area so I can be independent. He shouted that I bring no money in, he has to do everything, and that I that I snore so loud he can hear me from downstairs where he sleeps. I'm pregnant. We are in our 40s. FML
Today, my husband needs the money from my job, but will in no way support me to work. He NEVER cooks, cleans, or picks up after himself. I've got no place to work, except a nook by the bathroom, and I have to manage my toddler, who always poops only when I'm in a meeting, and cries for me. Quitting my job is "out the question." FML
Today, I woke up to my apartment in a state of total disarray. I've been asking my boyfriend to get either get a job, or clean the house. I just had a bunch of dental work taken care of. He doesn't have a job, and doesn't want to find one. I'm tired of trying to raise an already grown man. FML
Today, I finally told my roommate, who doesn't pay rent, to go get a job. He left, came back, and immediately went to my refrigerator to eat. I asked him about his job and what his pay is. Apparently, putting together a bike for a kid is a job. FML
Today, my psycho landlord threatened to take me to court if I don't pay my rent on time this month. I'd totally understand if he weren't my father-in-law, and if the reason I didn't pay on time before was because of hospital fees I'd incurred for an emergency appendectomy. FML
Today, I told my boyfriend he has to stop paying half of his baby mama's rent or I would leave. He laughed and said I could leave. FML
Today, I asked my husband to be a little more responsible, pick up after himself, and spend a little less. I earn more than he does, so it's usually my money that he splurges. He has gone on a non-stop tantrum for the past 5 hours, giving me the cold shoulder, and shouting at me. What have I gotten myself into? FML
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IllestRated 17
I bet he won't be saying that if he went through labor.
CatchMe25 16
Tell him that you have a job. Caring for a newborn. Also let him know that since it's his child he needs to pay back rent for the nine months your baby spent living inside you.
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Comments (85)
vikky538 29
well apparently its your fault ..you did not charge him for labour...baby sitting ...nursing in the first place ..if you do then he will come to senses..sorry OP
pwnman 33
Uh, I feel like he will emotionally abuse you later on. Get help, please!
an3ph 20
Ouch. Sorry OP. That blows.
withasmile 3
Demanding? Not ok. Concern over making ends meet with only one parent working? Understandable. It might be that you really can't afford to not work. You have to look at the big picture. What you are qualified for, potential earnings, child care costs which are considerable, housing, etc. Do you have family to help or a neighbor - often cuts cost if they are available but many don't have these options. If you have family who'd help, maybe part time is an option? Many times it doesn't make sense for one partner to work given the high cost of child care. But if only one parent is working, cutting expenses is often necessary. (Hand me downs for clothes from friends plus baby equipment is helpful - never say no because this stuff adds up and kids outgrow things too quickly to make sense paying if you don't have to. What you need to do is work out a plan and put hard numbers and scenarios on the table. My guess is your partner is stressed and resentful. Since both I and my husband changed roles as needed as to who stayed home, we both know exactly how tough it is for either. And what it's like when you both work. You need to work together on this. Good luck!
skittyskatbrat 19
Not relevant. She gets 39 weeks of PAID maternity leave. So there is an income, and it's designed so that parents can be home with the baby (as they should be) after it's born. She's getting 90% of her regular pay. AND they have zero medical bills covering the cost of having the baby, too. There is no cash issue here. There is only an Asshole Issue.
vlalam 24
Did he just hit puberty or what or is he on his period? How could he at that to you after what you have gone through for him?
skittyskatbrat 19
Um, there is paid maternity leave where you are. Unless it has been months, you are getting that. If not, you are getting unemployment. That's the norm in pretty much every country except the US! Sounds like he's either illogical and grumpy due to lack of sleep and his own changing hormones or you married a real lemon. Might be a great time to take a few weeks and go visit your parents (or his). And then he can explain to them why he said what he did...and the father/father-in-law can set him right.
Omniprism 15
What an asshole. I'd pack up my new baby and head to my parents or somewhere to not be around him for awhile. What a dick. Good luck.
Epikouros 32
Lean in, OP!
mchmelev1993 10
Tell him to either hire a nanny or tell him that being a mother is your job!!
Ash7419 5
Recession hit him hard right up his ass. and he is so inconsiderate that he should appericiate that you gave him the biggest happiness. In this world