Kids, Childfree and Love: Can't be bothered, TBH

Can't be bothered, TBH

By bummer.. - 02/03/2013 06:05 - United States

Today, I found out that the man I just married doesn't want to have children. We had this conversation multiple times with no problems before getting married, but now he would "rather die" than have children, because according to him, they would ruin his life. FML

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Too late

By Anonymous - 16/07/2023 03:00

Today, my husband told me he'd changed his mind and no longer wants children. We already have two kids. FML

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Plans

By Anonymous - 02/10/2022 02:30

Today, we saw a woman with two out-of-control children. As we walked away, my husband said to me, “Disgusting, I’m glad we’re never having children.” News to me, he'd always said he wanted a kid before we married. An uncomfortable conversation is imminent, damn it. FML

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By Tara115 - 09/02/2014 07:20 - Canada - Courtenay

Today, my boyfriend told me he doesn't think he should marry me, because I have kids. They're his kids. FML

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By Anon - 26/06/2014 04:03 - United States - Middletown

Today, my boyfriend told me he wants to marry me and be the father of my children. Five minutes later, he told me he wants to experience death. FML

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Different life goals

By Anonymous - 26/07/2022 05:00 - Israel - Jerusalem

Today, my boyfriend of almost 3 years told me he wants kids, specifically a biological child with me. When we started dating, I told him that I didn't want kids and he said the same, but now he's changed his mind. I haven't. I love him and will probably lose him because of this. FML

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Different goals

By Baby bird - 23/05/2021 11:01

Today, I asked my husband if it was a good time to think about having kids. His response was, "ABSOLUTELY FUCKING NEVER." I’ve always wanted to be a mom and he knows that. I feel like I’ve wasted my life. FML

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Not for everyone

By Anonymous - 02/11/2021 17:00

Today, after I'd left the love of my life because he didn't want kids, got into another relationship, he now tells me he's changed his mind about having kids, 5 years in. FML

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Red flag

By Anonymous - 17/12/2023 00:00 - United States - Ontario

Today, I want a baby, but suddenly my partner says he doesn't want any kids because he already has a child. With another woman. He's not been part of the mother's or child's life in over 7 years. FML

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No kidding

By Anonymous - 04/03/2024 05:00 - United Kingdom

Today, eight months into our marriage, my husband decided to let me know he never wanted kids so he had a vasectomy years ago. He seemed surprised he hadn’t mentioned it before, like ever. I love him but I don’t like him very much right now. In fact, I don’t like him at all right now. FML

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Baby baby

By Anonymous - 12/12/2023 23:00 - United Kingdom

Today, my wife and I have been in the same massive argument for two weeks. We agreed when we were dating that we couldn’t think of anything worse than having kids, we married on the basis we would never want kids. Now, a year later, she wants a baby. FML

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hellobobismyname 24

Saturday 2 March 2013 13:23

I may be wrong about this so anyone is free to correct me, but I think that's reasonable grounds for divorce. If you wanted kids and he knew that, and he fooled you about wanting them himself, then that's an enormous problem. I hope you don't feel like there's nothing you can do now. No man can take motherhood away from you. I say try to work things out and find out why he suddenly changed his mind, but if he lied just to get you to marry him then please leave. That's just so disrespectful..

SoMuchWut 8

Saturday 2 March 2013 13:20

I think dying would ruin his life too. So he's screwed either way.

Comments

ZombieSazza 34

Sunday 3 March 2013 17:16

Point out to him that before the wedding he was all for children, what had changed his mind? If he doesn't want to give you an explanation, and the fact he lied to you, I'd point out to him you can annul the marriage. Sorry, but someone like that lied through his teeth or something happened recently

Damitol 3

Sunday 3 March 2013 17:18

Being the father of a rambunctious 2yearold I know children are a life changer. No 2ways about it. Figure out what he wants, why he changed his mind, ESP. after you 2 had convos over it and if he really did lie then an annulment probably would be best, sadly. However if you 2 can work it out great!

Damitol 3

Sunday 3 March 2013 17:21

However from the sound of it he might still be young and want to do some things first...I'm just saying its possible that he could want to skydive or take a trip cross country or do a number of other things that would be tough to do with a baby in tow. I could be totally wrong and he could be an ass

nvo 6

Monday 4 March 2013 7:29

Tell him you would "rather die than have sex with him, because it would ruin your life."

stridercab 12

Tuesday 5 March 2013 19:59

Maybe he just wants to...y'know...ENJOY life rather than give up EVERYTHING for kids.

BriannaRWatson 13

Monday 4 March 2013 21:05

My husband was the same way when we first got married. He didn't put it that way though. Anyway, give him some time and he'll grow out of it. Why jump into having kids if you 'just married' him? Spend some time as husband and wife. Trust me, he'll grow up.

stridercab 12

Tuesday 5 March 2013 19:57

Not necessarily. Just because she's "grown up" doesn't mean he's not for not wanting kids. There's ALOT of negative factors that go into play for BOTH parties when kids are thrown into the mix...ugh.