Today, I found out that the man I just married doesn't want to have children. We had this conversation multiple times with no problems before getting married, but now he would "rather die" than have children, because according to him, they would ruin his life. FML
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Halloween
A failed costume, stolen candy and a very real scare: Halloween, the one night when fear is allowed.
Today, my husband told me he'd changed his mind and no longer wants children. We already have two kids. FML
Today, we saw a woman with two out-of-control children. As we walked away, my husband said to me, “Disgusting, I’m glad we’re never having children.” News to me, he'd always said he wanted a kid before we married. An uncomfortable conversation is imminent, damn it. FML
Today, my boyfriend told me he doesn't think he should marry me, because I have kids. They're his kids. FML
Today, my boyfriend told me he wants to marry me and be the father of my children. Five minutes later, he told me he wants to experience death. FML
Today, my boyfriend of almost 3 years told me he wants kids, specifically a biological child with me. When we started dating, I told him that I didn't want kids and he said the same, but now he's changed his mind. I haven't. I love him and will probably lose him because of this. FML
Today, I asked my husband if it was a good time to think about having kids. His response was, "ABSOLUTELY FUCKING NEVER." I’ve always wanted to be a mom and he knows that. I feel like I’ve wasted my life. FML
Today, after I'd left the love of my life because he didn't want kids, got into another relationship, he now tells me he's changed his mind about having kids, 5 years in. FML
Today, I want a baby, but suddenly my partner says he doesn't want any kids because he already has a child. With another woman. He's not been part of the mother's or child's life in over 7 years. FML
Today, eight months into our marriage, my husband decided to let me know he never wanted kids so he had a vasectomy years ago. He seemed surprised he hadn’t mentioned it before, like ever. I love him but I don’t like him very much right now. In fact, I don’t like him at all right now. FML
Today, my husband and I got into yet another fight because he wants a second kid and I don't. One kid is enough for any family but he won't listen. FML
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hellobobismyname 24
I may be wrong about this so anyone is free to correct me, but I think that's reasonable grounds for divorce. If you wanted kids and he knew that, and he fooled you about wanting them himself, then that's an enormous problem. I hope you don't feel like there's nothing you can do now. No man can take motherhood away from you. I say try to work things out and find out why he suddenly changed his mind, but if he lied just to get you to marry him then please leave. That's just so disrespectful..
SoMuchWut 8
I think dying would ruin his life too. So he's screwed either way.
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Comments (194)
northernlass 7
Jeez - #51, you sound like you have experience. It's people like you that make others never want kids.
Bluepies 24
I've long thought that a lot of guys wind up having kids because they put off talking about it early in the relationship, and by the time it becomes an issue, they feel they're in too deep to back out. This guy obviously is a jerk for lying, but it would be better if more guys held their ground on the issue, especially if they're honest early on.
ardencred 7
Annulment! Bloody selfish bastard!!!
OverBlossomed 22
He's a bastard for lying, but he's not selfish for not wanting kids.
madgrinchhatter 12
He's not wrong
Ameel_fml 19
They also bring much joy to peoples' lives. It just depends on whether a person wants children or not.
vbmg152 19
Listen to him! I'm sure eventually you'll have kids but for now, enjoy life & get to really know each other!
xmaximusx 12
Divorce him then! Some people don't want noisy, ******** $250,000 dollar fines
Ashara 15
If he lied to you, you can divorce him based on fraud
adam_night 9
Kinda true, once you have em things change for a while.
TheyCallMeDamien 18
You need to cut him loose because you don't have all eternity to wait for children especially with someone who doesn't want them. You need to make it adamantly clear that's not going to fly. I you go to counseling and he still hasn't changed his mind then move on. It'll hurt but it's better than being angry down the road because you didn't lead the life you wanted to lead.