By Anonymous - 11/02/2022 16:00
By Anonymous - 11/02/2022 16:00
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He doesn’t care about his kid, otherwise he would have told him or he wouldn’t have teased him about it and would have kept it quite. Yes life can be dangerous, but if you can’t trust your own children you’re just making it worst. And if you are really scared about the outside or don’t trust your child, seek counseling or go see a psychiatrist.
In practice you have two choices: (1) Talk to Dad about why he did that. The most likely reason is that he cares about you. The teenage years tend to be when we start creating an independent identity to a significant degree. Sometimes that results in less honest communication. If you tell you parents a bit more of what is going on in your life, it might make Dad feel less obligated to track you. And if Dad pays for the phone and you are under 18 he has a legal right to do this. (2) Use the information to your advantage but pretend you don’t know what’s going on. Remember you are where you phone is on or in standby. You are not where your phone isn’t or is powered completely down or wrapped up in aluminum foil. If you have genuine need to be out of touch that’s the way to do it. Personally I feel the first option is best.
The only good thing in the first solution is the « talk to your dad » part. The rest... It is not less honest communication. It is just not having to share everything with one’s parents. One has a right to an intimate life in order to develop one’s personality. There is NO obligation to track his children! Especially if you don’t say you’re doing it. Good parenting 101 is having faith and trust in our children. And NO it is not legal. Being a parent or paying a bill don’t grant you unlimited powers.
In that case he wouldn’t act the way he does tracking on a daily basis his son’s whereabouts. And he would tell that he has a way to track in case of emergency. And it is wrong to believe that caring about someone is following someone’s every move. That’s stalking. Caring goes with trust. There is no trust here.
It is frightening that all of the comments but one find normal that invasion of privacy, that lack of trust. It says a lot about how devious has become our society, rejecting the value of freedom. Op, I understand your anger. Hope you’ll be able to forgive your father and that you’ll be able to have an honest and fair discussion with him. But before that I’d have fun with him like putting your phone in his car or in your mother’s, turning it off, going to weird places (but don’t take any risks). Or following his phone. But beware you could learn things you didn’t want to know. Yeah a bit like putting the phone in your mom’s car. Anyhow you have a right to privacy and do not belong to your father.
Think of how the world is turning. Kids are getting snatched more and more. in the last week I've had 3 Amber alerts. By him knowing your routine he can figure if something happens to you fast. While I think you should have been aware of him tracking he may have had other fears preventing him. My children are young and I am terrified for when they become teenagers after how I'm seeing the world going. Will I track them? If I pay the bill, you bet.
Send your phone on adventure and then walk into the house to gauge his reaction. Call him out on that crap.
It's not you, it's likely someone else's kid or something he saw on TV or on social media. Parents have lots of dilemmas when it comes to protecting their kids. You may be offended by his invasion of your privacy, but you need to mitigate that with the fact that he cares about you.