Friends, Relatable and Toxic: Are you? Are you really?

Are you? Are you really?

By Anonymous - 22/10/2021 05:01

Today, a friend from our circle group told me that my behavior of responding her stories with another related story of mine was annoying. I'm was sorry about that and decided to introspect and not show up in our group chat for a while. Then I realized I'm a toxic person. FML

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The Ex

By unKnown621 - 18/06/2021 11:01 - United States - Saint Louis

Today, my (now ex) boyfriend and I had a fight, during which he said, "This is why I talk to other girls." I called him out for admitting to cheating and he told me I was toxic. FML

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Priorities, dude

By Anonymous - 06/09/2019 14:00

Today, my friend told me I was a terrible person and didn't care about our friendship. Why? Because I broke our Snapchat streak by working and sleeping, instead of being on my phone. FML

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You deserved it 125

The trauma table

By Anonymous - 01/12/2021 23:02

Today, I was sitting with a group of people at lunch. I was having a bad day, so I began venting to them. Eventually, they got tired of it and banned me from the table, because my "depressing mindset" reminds them of their trauma. FML

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You deserved it 1 031

A Tale of Two Nutritionists

By Christin Deason - 08/09/2019 22:00

Today, a friend criticized my detox method, calling it "unhealthy and unsafe." Recently, she made a post bragging about her dieting method, which is also very unhealthy and unsafe. I told her she was being a hypocrite. She unfriended and blocked me. FML

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You deserved it 395

Devious

By Chrislj - 07/06/2023 10:00 - South Africa - Johannesburg

Today, my manipulative mother got upset and started ignoring me. All because she lectured me about doing too much for other people, then proceeded to tell me all her problems, and I actually took her advice. Other people's problems are not my responsibility to fix. FML

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You deserved it 104

Persona non grata

By soupcrackers - 07/10/2020 04:57

Today, I spoke to Friend A and Friend B, with whom I'd had arguments with in the past. Those arguments caused me to leave a group chat. When I want to settle things with Friend B, they told me, "Don't come back to the group chat. It'll make everyone happier if you stay out." FML

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You deserved it 449

Tetchy

By Anonymous - 18/03/2024 10:00 - United States

Today, a girl and her boyfriend dramatically left our group chat. One of her friends, a mod, is blaming me over a public exchange we had; he says it proves I "don't know her AT ALL." The crazy bitch called me every istaphobe in the book over not liking her favorite anime, and left because I told her to grow up. FML

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You deserved it 109

Coping

By Anonymous - 23/06/2023 18:00

Today, I realized how self-absorbed my mother is when she came to visit, and was so upset at my sibling over a non-issue that she didn't notice I was high so I wouldn't have to remember anything she said. I was hoping for a healthier relationship with my family. FML

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You deserved it 227

He deserved it. Snapping ain't cool unless you're a turtle.

By accidentalsmartass - 06/03/2017 22:00 - Japan - Tokyo

Today, I learned that I may have caused a public speaker and author to be fired, because my response to his "open chat" question flustered him, causing him to lose his cool and snap at me. FML

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You deserved it 723

People are strange

By JustplainSad - 15/08/2020 23:01

Today, I found out my friend of 15 years, who cut off our weekly gaming group during Covid after a fight, is speaking to everyone but me. I wasn't even in the fight, I just checked in to see if he was OK after. FML

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You deserved it 164

Nikki 16

Friday 22 October 2021 5:34

You’re not toxic, that’s just how some people show that they are acknowledging the other persons story by sharing their own, you can try to do it less but it’s a trait of yours and if anything your friend is a bit rude

MeganBPD 4

Friday 22 October 2021 20:09

Agreed. That’s not you being toxic. That is how MANY people everywhere relate to others. Their stories somehow trigger a memory of our own and so we want to share it, JUST LIKE THEY DID. It’s not toxic. It is a normal personality trait and if this “friend” can’t handle not being the centre of attention for longer than their own story, then they should get down off of the pedestal they have themselves on and take a good look at it. They’ll realize that it’s not a pedestal at all, it’s a toilet. Sorry - bit harsh, sure - but I hate people who act that way. The only exception (IMO) to this would be if you are a) intentionally annoying this person (which you’ve made clear that you’re not) or b) you’re trying to one-up their stories, and not simply telling them for the sake of sharing your story (though I doubt this is the case as well).

Comments

ninjacat 10

Saturday 23 October 2021 18:11

You’re not toxic. A lot of people do this. It’s an expression of mutual experience. You’re showing that you have also felt that way/seen that place/did that thing as a way to foster a connection with the other person. Sharing stories in this way is more common in those who have ADHD or ASD since mirroring behavior and speech is generally a big part of how we subconsciously try to fit in. (I say we bc I am one of those people and I want to make sure people on here don’t think I’m being judgmental or rude for putting the mental health thing in there) I took an interpersonal communications class back in college that helped so, so, SO much. The point of this rant is simply this: you aren’t toxic, you simply communicate differently and that’s completely okay.