Is your husband on drugs? Or does he just not care?

Early onset dementia?

I think HE needs a doctors appointment

Weaponised incompetence.

sounds like your husband need to see a neurologist to see if he has a brain

At that point I'd honestly bring him to the doctor, he himself could have a myriad of problems that he's forgetting as well. My ADHD family members and even my dementia family member never forgot that much.

Clearly you need to alter the dynamic of the relationship. I suggest going FULL FEMDOM/Dominatrix and literally whip him into shape

Are you sure he's not doing that thing some people do where they pretend to be so incompetent that you stop asking them to do things because it's harder than doing it yourself?

were you working during all that time, could you have called him to remind him if you were