By DidNotExpectThat - 18/07/2016 07:30 - United States - Palo Alto
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OP here. My wedding was 3 weeks ago. Thanks for your kind comments, but no my mom wasn't drunk (she never drinks). I had a long conversation with her and my dad. Turns out she couldn't keep it to herself any longer. I'm no longer mad at her since she told me the whole story. Both my parents always told me a lot about their deceased best friend whom I'm named after. I'm actually that friend's daughter and my family took me in when both my biological parents died in a car accident when I was 3 months old. In a way, I know my biological parents through the memories of my adoptive parents. I've never suspected a thing since I have two little brothers and I kind of look like my mom. Telling me and everyone I love at my wedding was a way for her to honor her dear friend and 'share' that special moment in my life with her.
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Being adopted, I could see how not knowing until later would be horribly emotional. I always knew. If my parents told me at my wedding, I would feel lied to about my entire identity and would be extremely angered. Being adopted isn't bad; parents telling you at inappropriate or late times is.
Well that wasn't an appropriate time. She should be ashamed for bringing sadness to one of the happiest days of your life.
I think it's pretty normal to feel at least initial sadness when you find out. There's nothing wrong with it, but still. They might need time to come to terms with it and fully accept it. It should be obvious a wedding is a terrible time to drop something like that.
Of course it's obvious it was an inappropriate time; I said nothing to suggest otherwise. I don't understand sadness though. I perfectly understand anger at this information being hidden and I can understand confusion at the life that has already passed, but I just don't understand sadness. Maybe because I found out early in life I can't relate.