By DidNotExpectThat - 18/07/2016 07:30 - United States - Palo Alto

Today, my mom figured that the best time to announce that I'm adopted was during her speech at my wedding. FML
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OP here. My wedding was 3 weeks ago. Thanks for your kind comments, but no my mom wasn't drunk (she never drinks). I had a long conversation with her and my dad. Turns out she couldn't keep it to herself any longer. I'm no longer mad at her since she told me the whole story. Both my parents always told me a lot about their deceased best friend whom I'm named after. I'm actually that friend's daughter and my family took me in when both my biological parents died in a car accident when I was 3 months old. In a way, I know my biological parents through the memories of my adoptive parents. I've never suspected a thing since I have two little brothers and I kind of look like my mom. Telling me and everyone I love at my wedding was a way for her to honor her dear friend and 'share' that special moment in my life with her.

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What was she thinking?! Usually speeches at weddings are supposed to be funny and heartwarming, but your mom took it to another level. I hope this didn't ruin your day; then again, I don't know how it couldn't have.

Well that wasn't an appropriate time. She should be ashamed for bringing sadness to one of the happiest days of your life.

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I don't understand why being adopted is a bad thing. Your parents were able to chose you OP, they didn't get stuck with you.

It's not that it's a bad thing but that is a pretty big bomb to drop on somebody in front of a big crowd of people. Also highly inappropriate to do at a wedding of all places. That's a family discussion to be had at home first.

Being adopted, I could see how not knowing until later would be horribly emotional. I always knew. If my parents told me at my wedding, I would feel lied to about my entire identity and would be extremely angered. Being adopted isn't bad; parents telling you at inappropriate or late times is.

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And why would being adopted be a bad thing?!?!

FML should really get on making that sarcasm font :P

#27 yeah. besides, I've noticed a trend in the comments in recent years to be all serious and understanding and supportive and whatnot instead of making jokes, completely missing the point of this website. Oh well.

Apparently, asking a practical question is unacceptable, too #35

What was she thinking?! Usually speeches at weddings are supposed to be funny and heartwarming, but your mom took it to another level. I hope this didn't ruin your day; then again, I don't know how it couldn't have.

Well that wasn't an appropriate time. She should be ashamed for bringing sadness to one of the happiest days of your life.

Sadness? Awkwardness, maybe, and confusion, but I should hope not sadness.

I think it's pretty normal to feel at least initial sadness when you find out. There's nothing wrong with it, but still. They might need time to come to terms with it and fully accept it. It should be obvious a wedding is a terrible time to drop something like that.

Of course it's obvious it was an inappropriate time; I said nothing to suggest otherwise. I don't understand sadness though. I perfectly understand anger at this information being hidden and I can understand confusion at the life that has already passed, but I just don't understand sadness. Maybe because I found out early in life I can't relate.

Hopefully you can bounce back from that. It was low of her but some people just day the wrong things at the wrong time.

A toast to the groom, we always thought you were gay- turns out you were adopted. lol

Oh no! That's literally the worst possible moment to announce that....especially infront if all the guests. I'm sorry OP On the bright side..you can now have a fresh start with ur husband!

Sometimes I'm not sure if some of the fml are true, is too ironic and funny that it can easily be a comedy movie.

Nothing wrong with being adopted, of course, but you shouldn't have to process it in front of a crowd, at your wedding. How many drinks had she had?

"I still remember when you used to watch Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles... now, you're getting married! Time flew so fast!!! He's adopted, btw."