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If the child is left in your care you certainly can discipline the child. That's not to say to smack the child or anything, but you certainly can do what you need to pull the kid into line. You're there to supervise and keep the child safe and others safe from the child, not make friends and apologise for the child.

I refuse to watch children that Im not allowed to discipline, Period. Family or not, if the kid knows they can get away with it, they will.

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Maybe this sounds cruel, but I would consider chaining him up to cinder blocks.

I suggest to Hold her down with soggy clothes and breezeblocks.

#1 rule of looking after another person's child(ren), you do not hit or spank them, regardless of your stance on these matters. You can discipline them, there's lots of ways to do this, but don't hit another person's kid. Not only because it isn't your place, but for your own protection and safety. If that child says you hit them, that can open you up to abuse charges, even sexual abuse because spanking is on an intimate area. Even with permission, I wouldn't risk it. Edit - this was for under comment #3, in response to #31, but for some reason it will not post there.

#36 It was a joke

But what if that psycho comes at you with a knife. I gotta hit him. But then I think back to your comment, "you do not hit or spank or spank them" and then I die for listening to you.

My dad beat me with jumper cables and im a perfect child now

Kill it with fire?..... okay, too far

If the child is left in your care you certainly can discipline the child. That's not to say to smack the child or anything, but you certainly can do what you need to pull the kid into line. You're there to supervise and keep the child safe and others safe from the child, not make friends and apologise for the child.

what do you mean no smacking around? im sorry but if that lil shit is left in my care and shes doing all that she getting an ass whoopin and a timeout and while her mom is away im sorry but the adults in this family have to step up and act like an adult to this kid... letting her do all that is not ok and if her mom complains all you gotta do is say she needed discipline its tough love kids.

#31, if you strike my child multiple times, I'm calling the police. Don't do that. It doesn't help the child's behavior in the long run. It only helps you release your anger and frustration on the child. Talk to the kid and punish them, set boundaries and take away privileges, etc., but don't hit them.

and here we have the liberal and conservative parenting styles. lol.

I mean that's giving a lot of credit to the same style used to keep slaves obedient.

And that's why your child is going to grow up to be a monster

Let me be clear: I would not tolerate that behavior in my daughter, or any child I was watching. I would simply not permit it. That said, "smacking around" a kid, or giving them an "ass whoopin" is basically considered child abuse by the law in most parts of the country. My daughter gets straight A's, and strangers comment on how well-behaved she is. I've never spanked her in her life, but I certainly have punished and disciplined her. No major psychological organization recommends physical punishment, because there's nothing that can be accomplished by "ass whoopin" a child that can't be accomplished more easily by other means of discipline. I don't care how many times you downvote me. You're free to be wrong.

Does she actually respect you though? Because taking things away and putting in timeout only makes kids want to bend the rules.

I refuse to watch children that Im not allowed to discipline, Period. Family or not, if the kid knows they can get away with it, they will.

She's in your care, so I see absolutely no problem with you disciplining her. Especially if she's that destructive. If I were you I'd tell your cousin to either discipline her child or never expect you to watch after her again.

how old is she?

Like hell you can't discipline them. Someone has to if the parents won't. Otherwise at 18, guess what, laws or mommy/ can't protect them from assholish behavior anymore and things would get even uglier than a little spanking. Barring a mental illness a normal kid can be controlled whether it's nice means or not.

If the child is in your care you can discipline them as you see fit. He obviously does not have a strong figure in his life to teach him wrong from right, you need to talk to your cousin about that as it is not OK.

One of duct tapes many uses is restraining unruly children.

The way i see it, you can discipline the kid and make her life so miserable that she either 1: won't want to come back, or 2: her mom won't bring her back. Win- win either way.