ayashe... you mean well, but you have to understand that being in the military really changes people - even basic training is carefully, psychologically tuned to do this. I'd -never- consciously swear around a kid. But being away from civilization that you're used to, with 10, 100, or 1000 other young people and a few officers and sergeants... that changes the way that we instinctively talk, think, and react - very rapidly. And that's just the average working Joe or Jane in the military, not Infantry, Special Operations, or Marines, etc, who have to be shot at and and potentially kill people on a regular basis. What I'm telling you has nothing to do with any political view or stark defense of military members acting badly. I have seen a lot of female soldiers your age deployed (I am a sergeant, and a woman). Imagine that you were sent overseas to live in a tent or shack with 20 other young women, with next to no privacy at all, for half a year, working 12 hour days (or more), with only one change of clothes, limited toiletries, no internet, telephone, or cable, and practically no personal items. Imagine that this tent is in the backwoods of a country you don't know anything about or understand the language or culture of (and where people would be very happy to see you dead). Would you begin to act less polite if you could not stay clean, had to cut off your hair and live with practically no privacy, surrounded by teenagers and 20-somethings (mostly male), and were constantly under exhaustion and stress? Our environments influence us as humans in so many ways.