By Anonymous - 23/07/2014 20:44 - United States - Brooklyn
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I don't think you should have humiliated him like that, although he had no right to say that. Granted, he shouldn't look down on you or think less of women, but even if you had been a son, sometimes it's humiliating when someone else (especially your child) fixes something so easily that you've been struggling with. I think you could've gone about it with more sensitivity to him, or at least waited for him to ask for your help, considering he's clearly from a different generation and that likely really hurt him.
Hell yeah. You rock OP. Never let anyone tell you you can't do something cus you're a girl. And #33? You're a moron. Not abiding by someone else's bigotry is not "disrespectful". No one should have to apologize for solving a problem. OPs dad just is upset that a girl beat him at something. He's a small minded twit and deserved to have his butt handed to him. OP's dad was the only person in this being disrespectful and if OP waited for daddy's permission to not be a worthless doormat, sounds like she'd die before that happened. Telling a girl that she should wait for anyone's permission to be everything she can, is horrible.
It sucks having a sexist dad. I'm tech-savvy, and I offer to help my dad with his virus-ridden computers all the time. Of course, he can't swallow pride to save his life, so he ends up spending hundreds of dollars on computer repairmen just so they can press a button on the keyboard to fix the problem. It's amazing the lengths that some men will go to just to keep women down.
Well, although I'd say he's in the wrong, he can't really help it. He was brought up in an entirely different time, and, for lack of a better word "brainwashed" into believing that. Trying to change his beliefs would probably be a waste of time and effort. You can't get everyone to have the 'right' view, and trying to prove them wrong in mist cases will only result in them feeling frustrated and upset and you feeling accomplished.
99, your username is entirely too girly to be on such a sensitive site as FML, or using technology at all. Why not start up a new hobby, like gardening or baking? All sexism aside, I believe you are (unfortunately) quite correct. He seems past the point of filling in the obsolete canyon of thought he's grooved into his mind.
#99 & #107: Who cares how deeply-engrained his beliefs are? That should never forgive ignorance nor disrespect, and it certainly doesn't mean that the rest of the world shouldn't take anything he says seriously and/or tiptoe around him in order to avoid upsetting him. I mean, imagine how much he upset his daughter by saying those things. And, how much he must've said to her while she was growing up... You're saying she should just accept it? He needs to learn to be a mature adult and quit sulking.
@131; In agreeing with 99, I never meant that we should condone the father's behavior. I meant that it was probably a waste of time to try changing his opinion. I think he's lucky to have a daughter who is intelligent enough to fix a motorcycle despite being raised in an environment where his most noticeable contribution to her upbringing was making sure she knew how worthless her vagina made her.
Go girl! As a female mechanic myself, men get WAY too upset at being "shown up" by a female. Shrug it off and walk with confidence!
@104 equality isn't about what's "sexy", it's about equal pay for equal work, it's about having the opportunity to do jobs that have previously been seen as "for men". Female mechanics being paid for the work they do is a prime example of equality in modern society - get your head out your ass. Equality can be sexy.
I would say the point is that women and their work is not done for the sole purpose of giving a guy a boner or causing him to lose it via "emasculation" the point is respect. The same kind a guy would give his male peers. Equal pay for equal work is what would be evidence of that respect.