By in_side_out - 14/01/2010 11:26 - Australia
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Ouch dude, well at least she's not happy that she thinks you're "dumping" her. Or maybe she thinks she's a slut, either ways it sort of depends who she sleeps with and what condition she was in... But if you really love her, then i'd guess you would forgive her.
Talking in absolutes like that is dangerous. I would be upset if my boyfriend cheated on me, but I would need to know the circumstances to say whether or not I would dump him for it. If your relationship isn't completely ruined and your trust hasn't been shattered, it would be a waste to end it on that kind of arbitrary principle.
Absolutes really work well for trust issues. Ever here the saying, "it takes a lifetime to build trust and a day to destroy it." I'd agree about dumping her. The problem is that for the rest of the relationship the OP will ponder what caused her to cheat, will she cheat again, and how do I regain trust with someone like that. To think that it will go away for the love is short-sighted. I know that I had questions when my ex cheated on me and I can tell you it didn't get better with the "it's me not you" line or "I don't know why it happened" bit. I couldn't even get things out of her that I needed to hear to try to restart the relationship.