By Anonymous - 25/09/2014 19:32 - United States - College Station
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FYL OP, I know how you feel. If you can't find a way to change what you focus on, talk to your professor. They should have your medical papers as proof.
By university/college level it's up to the student to deal with their problems. They can get exam help like extra time/computer/someone to read the text for you. But like you still need to know the stuff. I know this for a fact since I have dyslexia and mild ADD and mild OCD.
It's unlikely, but if it's brought to the teacher's attention they may give OP a later date to do the test and therefore more chance to study, hoping that in the next couple days OP would find a time where he was able to focus on studying. It's worth asking at least. Worst that can happen is they say no.
As someone with ADHD, I can relate. Mine has gotten a lot better, but I can remember being crazy without meds, and melancholy with them. Quite a predicament.
without meds my boyfriend will spend all night jumping on the bed yelling while strumming a guitar like crazy, and literally got kicked out of school in the last two weeks for doing absolutely no work; on the meds he's extremely bright, extremely successful and extremely suicidal.
That's the problem. not to sound like a hippie, but we're being forced to conform. some people can't sit for 8 hours going work or listening to a listen, and instead of someone helping them with it, they're drugged into a stupor so they can sit still. our weaknesses are only as strong as we make them out to be. they should be worked with to make them positive, not be forced medication to attempt to make them like everyone else.
Your boyfriend should try and find a dose of medication that only has a lasting effect of a few hours, take it when he needs it, and not to just get him to settle down. I feel disconnected from most emotion when on meds. But I also realize that for the most part, that is what keeps me from being the stereotypical teenage boy. Your boyfriend should take meds to function, but not to the point where they entirely suppress him. And forget about the others urging him to take what he has if it makes him suicidal! Go and try different ones, maybe others will have different results. And him being like this May be cute now, but you'll get tired of it quick. Also, I recall reading an article that suggested that T.V. is contributing to ADD and ADHD. We like to tune out commercials, and then the show we pay attention to only lasts for 10-15 minutes, and in some cases even smaller intervals. And commercials can last about 10 minutes. So when watching T.V. when younger, we begin to get used to the routine of pay attention for a few minutes, and then tune out for a few minutes. A suggested way to combat this was to watch series on Netflix. 45/50 minutes of attention and then seconds of tune out. To slowly train us into longer attention spans. I thought it was an interesting idea, just a suggestion.
unfortunately, medicine does not help. no matter what you try. I have suffered from ADHD all my life, and when I was too hyper for school, they would put me on medicine that pretty much made me the living equivalent of a zombie. (without eating brains of course) I tried everything that was available at the time, and they realized that even though I was hyper, I would still get work done without meds. so eventually they took me off them. I have been off meds for 5 years (age 15) and I still get distracted, but I am not zombielike.
why did i get downvoted? is it because I said he's cute? He's tried a range of things and at this present time (we're both taking a gap year from study) he doesnt need anything and his ADD barely affects him at all. perhaps next year I'll bring it up with him; he seems to think he doesnt need it so its always awkward to talk about. I think its cute BECAUSE when he goes hyper he starts kissing me like crazy all over my face and tackels me and rolls around with me in his arms smiling and saying I love you. I dont know how else to describe it but its ADORABLE. we've been dating two years and not once has it bothered me (although sometimes I have to yell at him in the shopping mall when he starts pulling things off shelves and making loud noises haha)
I have the same problem! Except I usually spending exuberant amounts of time on random projects I never finish all the way through.