By Anonymous - 16/05/2016 04:48 - United States - Rocky Mount

Today, I had to sit through the wedding of my best friend and the love of my life, and pretend to be happy for them. FML
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My grandpa always used to say that true love is a two way street.. The love of your life is out there waiting for you to find them, OP! Stay strong :)

Only thing you can do is move on, and just accept that she doesn't feel that same. There are so many girls looking for someone like you. Just look in the right places. :)

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My grandpa always used to say that true love is a two way street.. The love of your life is out there waiting for you to find them, OP! Stay strong :)

My Moma used to say something along the lines of this too. So true <3

That sounds terribly hard to do. Does either of them know of your feelings?

even if they did I doubt it would change much

Besides, in no way should OP tell them at this point! It would be incredibly selfish, and could cause serious marital problems. It may not be right away, but you can't ignore that kind of tension. Not to mention, OP would likely lose both people.

mariri9206 32

@11, maybe OP needs to lose them, though, just for a bit. I'm not condoning telling someone who is about to be married that you're in love them (at least, not on their wedding day - that would be kind of a jerky move), but, if OP had said it months ago (with the intention to just get it out in the open and, so, they can move on), it could probably really help them. It could also probably really help OP if they were to be away from this couple until they're over "the love of their life" - like they shouldn't talk to or hang out with them on a regular basis but, if they want to keep the friendships (which I imagine they do), make it clear that they'll be there for you if there's an emergency.

seems a bit late for that... op probably should have said something sooner.

This is a hard situation to be in, but it's the OP's fault. OP never asked her out while she was single, or if the OP didn't know her yet, fell in love with her when she was in a relationship with the OP's best friend. OP needed to either say something earlier, or move on earlier, or ask her if she's into polyamory. The latter of which could still happen.

Only thing you can do is move on, and just accept that she doesn't feel that same. There are so many girls looking for someone like you. Just look in the right places. :)

How do you know OP is a man (or lesbian)?

Does it matter in the context of the comment?

You mean like under the couch or maybe in the dark alley where I constantly hear "come on hun, I know you want some. I'm out here for a real good price!"?

This could be the other way around for your friend. "My friend went to my wedding, and tried to act happy, but I know he's still in love with my wife". Think about it

I'm sorry, im sure you loved this person for a long time. maybe this will teach you to not wait to ask the person out. This guy led me on and i thought he liked me until he went out with my best friend. we arent friends anymore since she is so hooked on her boyfriend now. but I hope you find someone that will make you happy! because it worked for me.

I'm assuming you have known him/her for a long time, even before he/she met with their spouse, so you could have confessed you feelings a long time ago rather than sit and watch.

Why would you assume that they have known each other longer than her(?) and her spouse? The two are getting married, they've probably been together for a while and maybe friends before that.

I also went to a wedding on Sunday in Virginia

There's a reason they ask "does anyone object to this marriage" XD

mariri9206 32

Funny comment but OP wouldn't want to make their friends upset and, essentially, ruin their wedding.

And they don't always ask that anymore.

especially not at shotgun weddings :P

Indeed there is a reason. That reason is to stop the ceremony if there is some legal reason why two people can't be married. It was never about objecting for any non-legal reason.

There's only one thing to do. Drink five lukewarm wine coolers, rip off your shirt, and attack the groom in a passion induced rage. Seriously though, unless you made it clear, you probably took too long to make a move. And if you DID make it clear, why are you hanging on to somebody who doesn't feel the same?

Stay strong dude!