Today, I found out my wife confided in a coworker that she wants to sleep with him, because our marriage is loveless and sexless. News to me. FML
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semokco 0
Howdy! Op here. So nice of all of you that assume that I'm not doing my part. Let me say: I am. Our marriage is not sexless, I do express and have expressed my love in creative and whole ways. Our marriage is not "sexless"- there is a possible pregnancy, ATM.
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Mechazilla2 15
Give her the news of a marriage-less relationship.
MrsPegg 45
That is so messed up on many levels. I am so sorry OP! I would say try counseling if you desire to, but I know from experience that it's always easier said than done to make a spouse work on marriage; especially when it sounds like she's already moving on. :(
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Comments (106)
IvyOswin 17
Talk to her. Make the first move. Do something about it rather than posting to FML. Fix that marriage.
Dif_fml 12
**** that marriage.
semokco 0
I believe in three strikes. Eventually you gotta get your shit together. Today I have found evidence of at least two other times, possibly 4, that she has cheated. End of story, marriage over.
cheeeksss 29
I'm incredibly sorry, OP. Please keep track of her "incidents" for your lawyer to prevent her from taking your belongings. I hope things turn around for you soon!
MrConcise 35
#79 - Logically, ******* up three times might as well be the same as ******* up twice. **** up once? Lapse in judgement. Twice and three times? The behavior wasn't punished and the perpetrator wasn't conditioned to know that it was wrong. So if you truly believe in three strikes, give her a chance to change, since cheating any amount more than once is the same as twice. If you're *actually* a one-and-done type, end the marriage.
iiTzNeeNerz 26
So instead of coming to you or attempting to fix things, she confides to someone else about the problems going on between the two of you and her solution is to sleep with the guy she felt comfortable divulging that info to? Your wife sounds like she needs a slap to the face with a shovel. Once she comes to, get her a book on the crucial things marriage consists of... making sure you highlight the COMMUNICATION section for her. Maybe that will enlighten her a bit.
1dvos_grl3 21
Maybe try and surprise her more with love gestures. Women are delicate, I don't agree with her wanting to sleep with another man, but maybe it's a YDI for ignoring her wants and needs.
iiTzNeeNerz 26
Delicate? Don't you mean, assholes? Because, yes. They can be. Even when a man has done nothing wrong. You're essentially attempting to justify her behavior by implying that OP is the one at fault. Victim blaming at its best. How about instead of simply trying to get OP to romance his wife (assuming he hasn't) we get her to show a little commitment as well? It's only fair.
anyoldnamewilldo 23
Or maybe she should not expect him to read her mind and actually talk to him about what she feels is wrong. I hate that so many people (male and female) do not communicate with their partners and then get butthurt because they don't get what they want.
AkashaSC2 11
yeah, sure, so delicate from her to tell lies about their sexual life so she can cheat on him... Don't know you, but you imply that OP's wife deserves flowers, romanticism and understanding for her deeds, so I sonder : wouldn't you be the same kind of awful person as her, with no values or ethic standards ?
cheeeksss 29
OP deserves to have his wife openly say she wants to sleep with someone else? The ****? Well if you ever have a partner, and they cheat on you (or attempt to), remember what you said.
RoseCrystal 17
**** that. That bitch wants to sleep around, she can do it as a divorced wench. He is not in the wrong here, she is.
janfleury 19
I am so sorry. Sounds like therapy or divorce time.
lyricalservant 21
I take it, today is your bad day. Don't worry OP there's always a cloud in the horizon. Stay strong
joelp232 17
mayb try talkin it out and see where that gets you
Dick_diamond 22
Ahh, the sexless marriage.. The timeless cheaters' excuse
daken96 21
So true it's sickening.
Captain_Debilos_fml 13
Maybe she would like a threesome. Or, maybe you are not on the same page and you haven't noticed before.
notorious_me 13
Well, tell her that by sleeping with another man she will still have a sexless but now hateful marriage
bonermonkey 31
I can't believe how many people in this thread are supporting the wife or blaming the husband when its clear he had no idea there was a problem. Her behaving like that is so out of order when she hasn't even tried to fix the problems with her husband. It makes it look like she has no intention of fixing them so she's just taking the asshole route to divorcing him.
daken96 21
That never justifies what she did. She admitted she wants to cheat on her husband. No marriage deserves that. If OP really is a lazy asshole who doesn't care about her, then she should serve divorce papers, THEN be with the coworker. Cheating is cheating, no matter what the reason.
semokco 0
A lazy ass lump who works 12 hours a day in a shitty factory and spends his remaining time building a house for his family of 4, wanting to end the day with her cries of ecstasy and the taste of her lips on his has no time for greasy WoW players.