By Anonyme - 05/01/2011 04:43 - Serbia
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A lot of young children are exposed to things like that. The only way to keep them from things like that is to basically lock them in a closet and never let them watch TV, let them on the internet, let them go to public school, have friends, etc. With the way things are now, its impossible to keep them from hearing or seeing things like that. You can monitor them and limit what they see, sure. But they will still hear and learn things.
You can't put parental controls on everything ever. Also, they will learn eventually. No, its not appropriate for a seven year old to know about sex, but you can't can't keep them from life just because you want to shelter them. And yes, some partents need to realize that their children don't have to like them all the time, but that's not the point. This particular circumstance doesn't require punishment for the sole reason that she very likely doesn't really understand what she said, she was probably repeating something she heard. There is a balance with parenting and no one is perfect.
Funny that you say the generation your kids are part of is "messed up," considering it's your generation that's responsible for raising them. What's the saying? "Make sure your house is clean before you judge the neighbor's dusting"? Parents can't control everything their kids get exposed to, especially if said kid goes to public school or public day cares/after school programs. Yes, the parent should tell them not to say that again, but there's only so much you can punish a seven year old before it crosses into excessive- especially over parroting something she likely heard from adults. You know, the people kids pick up social constructs from. That said, knowing what sex is, what happens during it, etc., CAN be acceptable for young children to know. The concerns would be why the child knew it, and if they were exhibiting unhealthy behavior towards other child, which COULD be an indication of abuse or child grooming.
your kid might be watching too much TV. chances are she has no idea what it really means, but you need to have a talk with her.
When I was a kid, I knew words like sex and f*cking and so on, but I had only a very vague idea of what it really meant. I thought it was something like hugging or giving a kiss on the lips. So your daughter might know the expression and be aware of the fact that it's something related to having a "sweetheart", but not really know more than that.