The secret

By Jen K - 20/04/2022 06:00

Today, my boyfriend asked me to explain why my ex keeps DM-ing me for money. I can’t bring myself to explain to him that I’m still paying off the abortion my ex helped me pay for from the ex before him. FML
I agree, your life sucks 433
You deserved it 1 486

Same thing different taste

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You can give your boyfriend an honest, if not detailed explanation. "My ex loaned me some money to help with some unexpected bills while we were together and I'm paying him back."

I think hunting animals for sport is horrible and disgusting. I have to tolerate that my fellow citizens get to do it and I don't have to. That's what living in a free country means. Some of our states are becoming Gilead, though.

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You can give your boyfriend an honest, if not detailed explanation. "My ex loaned me some money to help with some unexpected bills while we were together and I'm paying him back."

I'll add that you should tell him the amount you still owe your ex. It stops the explanation from being vague and seeming evasive. That's the amount you owe the guy and once it's all paid off you won't have any further contact with the ex so there's no reason to worry about it.

wysegirl 24

Not sure how long you've been with the guy, but if you can't tell him the truth then leave. To not even be able to say that your ex helped cover a medical procedure. Before people come at me I am not for abortion I think it is horrible and disgusting HOWEVER, I do believe women should have more control over their bodies.

I think hunting animals for sport is horrible and disgusting. I have to tolerate that my fellow citizens get to do it and I don't have to. That's what living in a free country means. Some of our states are becoming Gilead, though.

Nhayaa2.0 17

You shouldn't have said it. No comments on your personal opinion were needed here. Now people will come at you because of it. I think people against abortion are horrible and disgusting. There.

"Before people come at me I am not for abortion I think it is horrible and disgusting" - No one asked you. Don't like abortions? Don't have one. Otherwise shut the **** up.

You are allowed to play some things close to your best early on in a relationship. Having an abortion is one such thing. Owing your ex money is not. Come up with a plausible story and explain when the obligation will be complete (the idea of being behind on bills, as others have suggested, has merit.) Also, the fact that you are willing to pay back your ex and are actively doing so should show any understanding person that you have good character.

"He loaned me money" end of sentence. If asked why "It doesn't concern you" is absolutely an okay response, and 100% is not combative, even if someone thinks it is when they hear it. No one, not even a partner, is entitled to your previous history. Unless the money is coming from his account, he can shut up.