Sweet relief

Gd 4 u

Ur n idt.

She might have taken it well for the moment but the information probably hasn't sunk in. I'm sure in a day or two ALL those hard questions will be asked.

26- Your post has made me hate you...

26- There are just so many geniuses just like you on FML. People like you give me hope for the human race. Reading clever comments like yours raises my IQ by at least 5 points every time. So thank you.

I think if I ever adopt, the child would know from a very young age, pretty much as soon as they could understand it. What's the point of keeping that from your kid?

Why'd u wait so long to tell her

62, that's a great plan. I was adopted at birth, and my mother never hid it from me or from my brother. She let us set our own boundaries and explore with questions. By the time we knew where babies come from, we perfectly understood why we were adopted - my mother is incapable of bearing children, though my parents tried very hard - and that we were actually chosen. We felt very special and very loved.

Thats what i plan on, Grimmerie :) being someone who is pursuing a career in the environment, sustainability is something that's important to me, so because the human population is growing so quickly, I think it would be selfish of me to have more than one biological child (I don't think anyone is selfish for wanting more than one biological child and this shouldn't be policed at all, but for me it's important). So, I have thought about adoption quite a lot. I think it's the least I could do to give back to humanity, and so many kids need loving homes.

70&88. Good for you guys on keeping a positive view on life. Best of luck in both of your journeys where they may lead you.

88- that's my plan too. :) Curious, what career are you persuing?

*pursuing

If she said that, this would be my response: "Alright, I'll give you back to the adoption center, considering you obviously don't like us."

Carmstro, I'm studying environmental engineering. I don't know what field I want to work in yet, though.

135- You can't unadopt a child. As a 15 year old that knows nothing about legal stuff, I'm even aware of the fact that unless it's dealing with foster parents and not the legal parents, you can't just give a kid up because you don't want them anymore. A better suggestion would be to kick her out when she turns 18.

26 - You are god's mistake.

That would be one of the top 5, of not the top, cruelest pranks. I'm usually all for having fun, teasing, and pranking but some things you just shouldn't joke about. And that's one of them.

61- You're right. Who would ever dream of making a joke on a website built on sarcasm and borderline offensive humor? Oh, the humanity.

kyleekay; I really wasn't referring to joking about it here, one of the main reasons why I like FML so much is because it's super sarcastic and I enjoy sarcasm very much. I was actually referring to Sinandraide's suggestion to say, "Just kidding!" to their adopted child or biological child. It's a very overwhelming situation.

You really do hate fun, don't you, BellaBelle?

And jokes.

3 - so that's why now you go around with your hanging boobies and have no respect for your parents since your teenage.

52: You're not in much of a position to judge anyone considering your piss-poor grammar.

Wow, 52, you're a misogynistic ass hole. Oh, I'm sorry. Was that judgmental?

Nice rack!!

As a teenager, I'd say I definitely wish I was adopted

I still wish I was.

Yes, this. So long as you're not abusing your teenage daughter, her wishing she was adopted is likely a sign that you're doing something right as a parent.

3 - Most teenage girls*

I love my parents and would never wish I were adopted. :D

Pfft, I'm a teenager and I'm glad I'm not adopted, because this one girl at my school said a 13 year old girl (her real mum) got raped by a 42 year old man and she got put up for adoption right after she was born. But she gets harassed a lot because of it. Screw high school :(

I guess I'm not one of those teenagers

What the hell is wrong with teenagers these days? Unappreciative *****. I NEVER wanted to be adopted. I love my mom too much and even the awful arguments my dad and I used to have never got bad enough to where I would wish I was adopted. That's just outrageous.

uh hey. I'm adopted. because I was loved.

@129 according to your profile (if my phone isn't derping), you're 19. So think before you criticize all teenagers next time, please? Because I know I'm appreciative for a lot in my life, and don't whine about not getting stuff or wish I was adopted...

I dont think i ever wished i was adopted because even tho my mom can be strict at times, And sometimes things arent fair, but I have got a great education, food and im healthy. I also have a twin brother that i love very much.

Step one as in adopting her, or step 1 as in telling her?

I think she was just a little angry from the night before, when she bought her mom a lighthouse as a gift and well...you know what happened there!

I don't think she should be punished for that. She just learned that she was adopted and that can be extremely devastating emotionally and mentally. She just found out that the only people she knew as mom and dad aren't her biological parents and that her biological parents are possibly dead, in prison for a very long time, couldn't afford a child, were teens when she was born and couldn't support her, her mother could have been a rape victim and didn't want a child that reminded her of that trauma but didn't want to abort her, etc. That's a lot for anyone, especially a teen, to take in. She may have responded that way as a defense mechanism to hide the fact that she was overwhelmed by this revelation and was possibly very hurt that her biological parents gave her up for adoption.

BellaBelle- that's very true, I probably would've done something similar, a lot of people hide their feelings like that, they need to think their emotions over.

So true! How can we fix our problems and such if we keep hiding our disappointments and hurt feelings from those we love that may have unintentionally hurt us? You can't.

9 why

They adopted her probably gave her a good life and she being a little mean during I bet a sensitive time for the parents.

A sensitive time for the parents? For ******* sake, that girl, who's right in the middle of puberty, just heard that her beloved mommy and daddy are not her real mommy and daddy. Give her a break, could you? If anyone is to blame, it are the parents. Like there never was a better (and sooner!) moment to tell her.

You don't think it was hard for the parents too? You think it's just going to be easy to tell their daughter they raised from a baby that she is adopted?

Djeepee - They ARE her real mother and father. Parents are people who raise you, teach you manners, feed and clothe you, tuck you in at night, read you stories - people who love you. Sharing half your DNA with someone doesn't make you a parent.

I don't think it would be easy....but I think they could/should have told her earlier.

And you're completely right, Doc! But be honest, what would your first reaction be if your parents told you now that you were adopted? Would it be A) My parents will always be my real parents, adopted or not! or B) Omfg?! I'm adopted? Who's my real mother and father? Why didn't they want me? Who am i? I don't know about you, but I go for option B. And I'm not even an insecure sixteen year old. And to 34: the parents choose to adopt her, they knew that they would have to tell her. In my opinion, they have waited to long with. Difficult or not, it's more easier for a child to deal with it if it's not a surprise which they've been waiting on for friggin' sixteen years.

DjeePee- I am going to have to disagree. If you tell a child to soon that they are adopted, they can start doubting themselves. They don't understand, then wonder would set in; "Why didn't my parents want me?"- "Is something wrong with me?".... Self blame, then therapists. They may not be mature enough to understand. You shouldn't tell them to early and you shouldn't wait too long. But to be honest, they'd know when the right time was if they raised her. The parents would know what their child could handle and when. If they paid attention. Not to mention, there are plenty of parents who wait until their children are married or maybe even never. So this isn't so bad.

My boyfriend's parents told him from the get go that he was adopted. As soon as he was old enough to understand, anyway, and he turned out perfectly fine.

120- I always knew I was. it never made a difference to me.

Exactly! Why do parents hide it like its a horrible shameful secret? And then wonder why, in most cases, their kids take it badly... Just tell them from the start

At age 5 I learned my step dad wasn't my real dad, it was quite devastating.. I never called him dad cause it didn't feel right.. I'm pretty sure it's hard on the parents too

Exactly. I lose respect for those parents. I was told before I could even understand it, but I love my parents so much, I still see them as my real parents and I'm so happy to habr known the truth all my life

My cousin didn't find out until she was 18 and it came out on accident during a heated argument. She was all set to go to college, and she was doing great in school, but the news broke her so badly she dropped out of high school and turned to a life of drugs and alcohol and has had several kids by different men. This is obviously the EXTREME version of what can happen, but often times that kind of shock of finding out your whole life is a lie can take a massive toll on one's mental health.