family or not, no one needs to tolerate toxicity. it may seem necessary because she's related. its fucking not. love yourself. advocate for yourself. if she wont let you, leave her in your dust.

Mothers have a responsibility to their kids. I had a similar situation where I was made to feel as though I had no defense for what I was being lectured about. Then I started verbally fighting back, and got the Surprised Pikachu Face and a comment about how "disrespectful" I was. I told her if she wanted respect, she had to SHOW SOME FIRST. We had a rough couple of years, but we are about to talk civilly now and have a good relationship.