Today, I realized after seeing my ex in his new relationship that he does everything for her that I always wanted him to do for me. Sucks not being worth it. FML
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Fall
Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, my ex is doing with his new girl all the things I begged him to do during our relationship. She gets Just Because flowers (he only got me flowers once and complained how expensive they were), trips (he told me he hated traveling), and apparently an engagement ring (he said he didn’t believe in marriage). FML
Today, my ex, who “didn’t believe in posting our relationship on social media”, has no problem posting his new girlfriend and showing her off. He acts like he won a very valuable prize with her, and I was left in the shadows for the whole year we dated. FML
Today, I looked at my ex’s Instagram stories and found out that during our relationship, she was taking her now boyfriend to all the places I'd showed her. They’ve lasted way longer than we did, and she’s the one who left me. Seems like she liked how I treated her, just not me. FML
Today, I was having an after work-out dinner with my ex-girlfriend and we were having a great time, catching up, eating good food, all the good things. Then when I got home, I realized I just talked to my ex-girlfriend for an hour and a half about how much better her new boyfriend is than me. FML
Today, the guy I like, who told me he “is trying to heal from his divorce,” just got a girlfriend. He calls her “the one that made me believe in love again.” I spent almost a year being a friend, supporting his every need, and hopelessly holding it down for him. Good to know I’m not good enough and never will be. FML
Today, I was stalking my ex-husband’s Facebook. He looks so happy with his new, supermodel-perfect girlfriend who he left me for. She’s everything I’m not. I kinda regret giving birth to two kids and my body changing forever. He’d still be with me. FML
Today, I was hanging out with my ex's new girlfriend. I found out he was dating us both at the same time and was comparing between us. That is why he broke up with me two years ago and is still with her ever since. FML
Today, I saw my ex, who had dumped me for not being “ambitious” enough. I'd said she was just a gold digger and would die alone. She looked amazing at the fanciest, most expensive restaurant in town, and was celebrating being made partner at her law firm. I was bussing tables. FML
Today, my ex, who physically and emotionally abused me, is in a happy marriage. His new wife is glowing and they have a kid, with another on the way. So basically, he was capable of being a Prince Charming who could give another woman her happily ever after, just not for me. FML
Today, at the library, I saw my ex for the first time in two years, about 100lbs lighter and super hot. She’s engaged now. I asked her why she couldn’t do that for me when we were together. She replied, “Because my man loved me at my worst, unlike you. So he deserves me at my best. Have a nice day.” and walked away. FML
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Chazzster 32
OP, either you ex learned from your prior relationship how to treat a significant other, or that person told him how they expect to be treated, or this is the “honeymoon” phase when both parties are on their best behavior. Whatever the case, obsessing on your ex’s current relationship is self-defeating. It keeps you from looking out for you present and future and just leaves you feeling disappointed. And that attitude keeps others from being interested in you. When you have a breakup or some other significant disappointment in life allow yourself an appropriate time and space to grieve your loss. But set an end date for getting past the grieving and get into a new plan for your life. The longer and more intense the relationship, the longer the grieving period. But it’s important to move on. I’m not saying you have to find a new significant other in that time - Just have a plan for how you are going to move on that does not involve obsessing about your ex. And finally learn from the experience - Learn to speak up for how you want to be treated and to listen to how the other person wants to be treated. Not every relationship works out. Sometimes the attraction might be there but there are incompatibilities that just keep it from working. Pick your battles, some things are important and worth standing up for, some things are best compromised, and some things are unimportant. Learn to know the difference.
Nhayaa 21
How can you tell from a 3 sentences long FML that she didn't? It always amazes me how people just assume things but actually know nothing of the situation.
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RichardPencil 32
You didn't demand it. You didn't think you were worth it. Not his fault.
Nhayaa 21
How can you tell from a 3 sentences long FML that she didn't? It always amazes me how people just assume things but actually know nothing of the situation.
RichardPencil 32
You have to make wild-ass guesses when you don't get much story to begin with.
Jackson Raab 7
No man. You don't have to make any assumptions. and it is his fault, I know that if my girl was to feel worthless or inadequate, then it's my goal to help them move past that. No one should have to beg for their partners love, and I think you need to rethink what you said
Chazzster 32
OP, either you ex learned from your prior relationship how to treat a significant other, or that person told him how they expect to be treated, or this is the “honeymoon” phase when both parties are on their best behavior. Whatever the case, obsessing on your ex’s current relationship is self-defeating. It keeps you from looking out for you present and future and just leaves you feeling disappointed. And that attitude keeps others from being interested in you. When you have a breakup or some other significant disappointment in life allow yourself an appropriate time and space to grieve your loss. But set an end date for getting past the grieving and get into a new plan for your life. The longer and more intense the relationship, the longer the grieving period. But it’s important to move on. I’m not saying you have to find a new significant other in that time - Just have a plan for how you are going to move on that does not involve obsessing about your ex. And finally learn from the experience - Learn to speak up for how you want to be treated and to listen to how the other person wants to be treated. Not every relationship works out. Sometimes the attraction might be there but there are incompatibilities that just keep it from working. Pick your battles, some things are important and worth standing up for, some things are best compromised, and some things are unimportant. Learn to know the difference.
kfchicken 31
or and I don't know why people are pretending like this isn't a thing, he likes her more? maybe he's just more compatible with her so these actions come more naturally to him in this situation. you treat people you have better chemistry with better. it doesn't mean OP didn't tell him to act that way, or that her ex is in a honeymoon phase.
Cc411 11
You are worth it! He didn’t see it, thats his loss. You deserve some one who is good to you and kind. 😊
PawgPower 3
He had to learn it from somewhere. You breaking up with him was what he needed to get his act together and actually try. It has nothing to do with you being good enough and everything with you being a positive standard for him to reach. I just hate that he didn’t get it together with you 😔
Robin Mariee 3
as always said it doesn't matter howuch of a good woman you are if your not the right woman for him he will not do what you expect of him or vice versa
tounces7 28
Not gonna lie. This could be my ex posting frankly. I do do a lot more for my current relationship. Why? Because she does a lot more for me, simple as that. Maybe OP just needs to learn that you need to give if you want to receive. But, that's just a guess, who knows what the reasons might be.
Onisarubia 1
I had been with my ex for 8 years trying and trying to make things work and when he broke up with me he told me its a 2 way road and he now only likes me as a friend. But the thing was, everytime I asked him how to fix the problem, he never wanted to talk about it so how was I supposed to know?