He goes to a different school

By Anonymous - 15/12/2022 18:00

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Today, at work during lunch, a bunch of the girls were talking about their husbands and boyfriends and sex stuff. I unfortunately got involved and basically made shit up and lied my ass off because no way would they believe I’m a virgin at 37, who last had a boyfriend in high school. FML
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There is nothing wrong with that (except maybe lying). You are not alone in this situation, believe me.

mangopineapple21 2

I felt the same way for a while and it’s not fun. But I think you’re overthinking it. There’s nothing wrong with you and there are definitely others in the same boat. If it’s an insecurity, I recommend putting yourself out there in social settings or trying apps if you feel comfortable. But it’s not something that should define you.

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There is nothing wrong with that (except maybe lying). You are not alone in this situation, believe me.

If you're a female incel, I'm sure people can believe you are a virgin. If you want to lose it, go to a bar near closing time and you can surely pick off some drunk who will stick it in you.

There’s no point in having lied about your sexual experiences. The chances are high that many of your listeners knew it was a lie and that just makes you look sad… Be yourself. If you’re not into dating for whatever reasons there are, that’s fine. It’s your life and not theirs. Work is not like High School, by this point in their lives most adults can tell when the claims clearly don’t match what they have seen but usually people just let it go rather than call you on it - especially at work where we all have to get along well enough to get our jobs done… At some point most of us have said things that weren’t strictly true. Just don’t compound the lie by continuing to build on it. If you do eventually someone will call you on the lie and then you’ll be much more embarrassed… OP, be an authentic version of yourself. If you aren’t interested in dating and sex that’s OK - Just don’t claim to be someone you aren’t. If you do actually want to have that kind of life, I suggest seeing a therapist. Not because that makes you some sort of outcast, but because dating and sex involves some acquired social skills that you may have missed growing up. A good therapist can help you sort out what you actually want to do and help you make a plan to become the person you want to be.

mangopineapple21 2

I felt the same way for a while and it’s not fun. But I think you’re overthinking it. There’s nothing wrong with you and there are definitely others in the same boat. If it’s an insecurity, I recommend putting yourself out there in social settings or trying apps if you feel comfortable. But it’s not something that should define you.

If you don't mind, I'm going to use this story as inspiration for the gender-swapped remake of The Forty Year-Old Virgin.

Marcella1016 31

The Thirty-Seven-Year-Old Virgina

mccuish 25

There is nothing wrong with being a virgin at that age. I’m a 32 year old virgin and would rather stay asexual

sweetie, there is nothing wrong at all if you've not 'been' with anyone at your age. Some people optionally go their entire lives not having sexual activity with anyone and that is completely normal too. There's so much pressure on people these days where society has people brainwashed into thinking that losing your virginity is a 'milestone' of one's life when it's simply not the case. Just like getting married, or having children.. it's a choice and shouldn't be an expectation. You're a normal adult human being, ok? :3

Sonotsuave 34

I felt like that around my girlfriends on girls nights out, I’m sure a lot of people have too. I had my first kiss at 19, didn’t date til 19, and didn’t lose my virginity til 26 with my current boyfriend. He’s the second person I’ve ever dated. It’s ok not to be on the same fast speed as everyone else, it comes in due time. You can always tell a white lie and say you go out on casual dates but haven’t found anyone investing in yet, & are focusing on yourself 😉