By Uglyandfat - 10/4/2021 21:30

Assumptions

Today, I was walking home when I heard a male voice behind me yelling, “Hey! Hello!” I walked faster and grabbed my pocket knife, turned around and pointed it at him. He just wanted to hand me back the keys I'd dropped. He then added something like, "Oh, and don’t get it twisted, you’re too fat to be kidnapped and raped." FML
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By  mickymoose1  |  15

Rape isn't about how attractive someone is. It's about the power the rapist feels while doing it. So no it's not a natural deterrent, he just happens to be a dick.

As a woman, I understand the scared feeling of walking when there is someone walking behind me. I'm so sorry you felt scared enough to pull out your knife and you shouldn't ever have to feel that way.

Men need to do better. We need to work together to change rape culture. Educate your son's about consent and personal boundaries and stop allowing young children, mainly boys, to get away with stuff like snapping girls bra straps. Those are the building blocks to teaching kids toxic masculinity.

Do better and be better.

By  xxDeeStar  |  27

It’s not “OP” who was called the “dick” but the guy who made the unwarranted comment about being fat and ugly.

It was better for her to be safe than sorry. If it was a real case, wouldn’t it be better she had used self-protection? There are TOO many cases where this happens, so it’s not an “overreaction” by any means.

HA... and making jokes about rape and sexual assault because this one happens to be a case where person wasn’t a “kidnapper”, is immature, and dimwitted. People think jokes can be made about anything (which is untrue unless you’re an immoral fuck), and when told it wasn’t OK - same people get triggered. Like what?! Why you taking it so personally that for now men remain the larger predators? I don’t like that fact EITHER. My closest friends and family are positive male figures. So it makes me sad.

So yes, women also rape and that should also be made knowledge. But also, cannot ignore that vast majority of rapists and kidnappers are still male for now. That doesn’t mean every male, or normal healthy male. Just that’s the reality right now, it’s not 50-50. Just a fact. So don’t take that comment personally, it’s not targeted at you but just the awful state of things regarding rape today.

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By  mickymoose1  |  15

Rape isn't about how attractive someone is. It's about the power the rapist feels while doing it. So no it's not a natural deterrent, he just happens to be a dick.

As a woman, I understand the scared feeling of walking when there is someone walking behind me. I'm so sorry you felt scared enough to pull out your knife and you shouldn't ever have to feel that way.

Men need to do better. We need to work together to change rape culture. Educate your son's about consent and personal boundaries and stop allowing young children, mainly boys, to get away with stuff like snapping girls bra straps. Those are the building blocks to teaching kids toxic masculinity.

Do better and be better.

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  cuz803  |  39

Ma'am, I, a man who's against sexual assault, am sorry if I offended you and/or if my joke was in bad taste but it was a JOKE to POKE FUN at OP for "being a dick" like you said. Not my comment or anybody here is glorifying sexual assault so your response was inadvertently taken out of context.

Also don't get it twisted, women are capable of rape as well

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  xxDeeStar  |  27

It’s not “OP” who was called the “dick” but the guy who made the unwarranted comment about being fat and ugly.

It was better for her to be safe than sorry. If it was a real case, wouldn’t it be better she had used self-protection? There are TOO many cases where this happens, so it’s not an “overreaction” by any means.

HA... and making jokes about rape and sexual assault because this one happens to be a case where person wasn’t a “kidnapper”, is immature, and dimwitted. People think jokes can be made about anything (which is untrue unless you’re an immoral fuck), and when told it wasn’t OK - same people get triggered. Like what?! Why you taking it so personally that for now men remain the larger predators? I don’t like that fact EITHER. My closest friends and family are positive male figures. So it makes me sad.

So yes, women also rape and that should also be made knowledge. But also, cannot ignore that vast majority of rapists and kidnappers are still male for now. That doesn’t mean every male, or normal healthy male. Just that’s the reality right now, it’s not 50-50. Just a fact. So don’t take that comment personally, it’s not targeted at you but just the awful state of things regarding rape today.

By  DarkAngelsBlade  |  25

I understand the worlds a scary place and dudes are scary and terrible. But someone who has ill intentions is far less likely to alert you by saying hey/hello, you can maintain your distance and preparations, it's also rather smart to take a look at someone at a distance when you know it's safer, to give you an idea of what they look like should they turn out bad. But the dudes an ass for that response.

By  anomynous  |  11

Bet everyone who voted YDI is a man who's never had to fear walking home alone.

By  DrSamba1  |  7

Sadly, your concern for your safety was not unjustified in this day and age, and while he might have done you a kind act by returning your keys, he was a fucking asshole for adding that totally unnecessary comment at the end.

By  longnight83  |  6

I'm gonna go with everyone sucks here.

On one hand, "threaten with a weapon" in response to what is generally accepted as a polite greeting for attention, especially if one has reasonable cause, such as returning keys, a wallet, or a cell phone, is way out of proportion. Yeah, get your hand to your weapon, but pulling it out and pointing it at the person is a bit extreme.

On the other hand, he guy's response was also just plain rude and body-shaming like that isn't okay, although I admit I probably wouldn't have felt charitable towards someone responding to me trying to return their keys by literally threatening me with a knife. Still, his comment was out of proportion to the situation, completely rude, and who even thinks to say that?

So yeah, you both suck.