Assumptions

By Uglyandfat - 10/04/2021 21:30

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Today, I was walking home when I heard a male voice behind me yelling, “Hey! Hello!” I walked faster and grabbed my pocket knife, turned around and pointed it at him. He just wanted to hand me back the keys I'd dropped. He then added something like, "Oh, and don’t get it twisted, you’re too fat to be kidnapped and raped." FML
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Rape isn't about how attractive someone is. It's about the power the rapist feels while doing it. So no it's not a natural deterrent, he just happens to be a dick. As a woman, I understand the scared feeling of walking when there is someone walking behind me. I'm so sorry you felt scared enough to pull out your knife and you shouldn't ever have to feel that way. Men need to do better. We need to work together to change rape culture. Educate your son's about consent and personal boundaries and stop allowing young children, mainly boys, to get away with stuff like snapping girls bra straps. Those are the building blocks to teaching kids toxic masculinity. Do better and be better.

It’s not “OP” who was called the “dick” but the guy who made the unwarranted comment about being fat and ugly. It was better for her to be safe than sorry. If it was a real case, wouldn’t it be better she had used self-protection? There are TOO many cases where this happens, so it’s not an “overreaction” by any means. HA... and making jokes about rape and sexual assault because this one happens to be a case where person wasn’t a “kidnapper”, is immature, and dimwitted. People think jokes can be made about anything (which is untrue unless you’re an immoral fuck), and when told it wasn’t OK - same people get triggered. Like what?! Why you taking it so personally that for now men remain the larger predators? I don’t like that fact EITHER. My closest friends and family are positive male figures. So it makes me sad. So yes, women also rape and that should also be made knowledge. But also, cannot ignore that vast majority of rapists and kidnappers are still male for now. That doesn’t mean every male, or normal healthy male. Just that’s the reality right now, it’s not 50-50. Just a fact. So don’t take that comment personally, it’s not targeted at you but just the awful state of things regarding rape today.

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Rape isn't about how attractive someone is. It's about the power the rapist feels while doing it. So no it's not a natural deterrent, he just happens to be a dick. As a woman, I understand the scared feeling of walking when there is someone walking behind me. I'm so sorry you felt scared enough to pull out your knife and you shouldn't ever have to feel that way. Men need to do better. We need to work together to change rape culture. Educate your son's about consent and personal boundaries and stop allowing young children, mainly boys, to get away with stuff like snapping girls bra straps. Those are the building blocks to teaching kids toxic masculinity. Do better and be better.

Ma'am, I, a man who's against sexual assault, am sorry if I offended you and/or if my joke was in bad taste but it was a JOKE to POKE FUN at OP for "being a dick" like you said. Not my comment or anybody here is glorifying sexual assault so your response was inadvertently taken out of context. Also don't get it twisted, women are capable of rape as well

Your response tells me everything I need to know about your character. You are part of the problem regarding rape culture. Your "joke" was in horrible taste, and as someone who is a rape survivor and still struggling with the trauma years after, knowing my rapist is still out there probably raping others, I am severely offended by it. Obviously women can rape too, that's a known fact, but when the majority of women take large steps to avoid being in contact with other men while walking home alone, such as crossing the street, changing their route, walking with a key between their fingers, hand on pepper spray, etc, there is a significantly larger problem among the male population regarding rape. When is the last time you planned your day so you're only out during daylight hours? When was the last time you changed your route home because you felt unsafe because there is someone walking behind you and you're scared? When is the last time you felt the need to ask security at a store to walk you to your car because a van has parked next to your car and you don't feel safe walking to it alone? When you plan everything about your day, every day, around being as safe as possible, let me know, because your previous two comments show how much toxic masculinity plays into your life, character, and personality. The comment that replied to you is 100% correct about parts of my comment not being directed at you. However this comment is 100% directed at you. Change your approach if you truly are against rape culture. Be part of the change, not part of the problem, because currently you are part of the problem.

It’s not “OP” who was called the “dick” but the guy who made the unwarranted comment about being fat and ugly. It was better for her to be safe than sorry. If it was a real case, wouldn’t it be better she had used self-protection? There are TOO many cases where this happens, so it’s not an “overreaction” by any means. HA... and making jokes about rape and sexual assault because this one happens to be a case where person wasn’t a “kidnapper”, is immature, and dimwitted. People think jokes can be made about anything (which is untrue unless you’re an immoral fuck), and when told it wasn’t OK - same people get triggered. Like what?! Why you taking it so personally that for now men remain the larger predators? I don’t like that fact EITHER. My closest friends and family are positive male figures. So it makes me sad. So yes, women also rape and that should also be made knowledge. But also, cannot ignore that vast majority of rapists and kidnappers are still male for now. That doesn’t mean every male, or normal healthy male. Just that’s the reality right now, it’s not 50-50. Just a fact. So don’t take that comment personally, it’s not targeted at you but just the awful state of things regarding rape today.

Nothing personal taken. And alright. If that's what's true then sure.

I understand the worlds a scary place and dudes are scary and terrible. But someone who has ill intentions is far less likely to alert you by saying hey/hello, you can maintain your distance and preparations, it's also rather smart to take a look at someone at a distance when you know it's safer, to give you an idea of what they look like should they turn out bad. But the dudes an ass for that response.

Not necessarily. A rapist could be trying to gain trust by pretending to do a good deed, just to get close enough to act.

I disagree. Many people with ill intent use tactics designed specifically to disarm their intended targets.

Glad you're safe and got your keys back...sorry about the rude response.

With "rude response" you mean pulling a knife on someone who's saying, hello, right?

Geez, what a creep

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Bet everyone who voted YDI is a man who's never had to fear walking home alone.

Sadly, your concern for your safety was not unjustified in this day and age, and while he might have done you a kind act by returning your keys, he was a fucking asshole for adding that totally unnecessary comment at the end.

I agree with your comment, but I want to point out that this is hardly a problem with modern roots.

Maybe if you didn't pull a knife on him he wouldn't have said that

Maybe if he'd said "you dropped your keys" she wouldn't have had a reason to suspect he had ill intent.

but why would you automatically suspect ill intent in other people?

I'm gonna go with everyone sucks here. On one hand, "threaten with a weapon" in response to what is generally accepted as a polite greeting for attention, especially if one has reasonable cause, such as returning keys, a wallet, or a cell phone, is way out of proportion. Yeah, get your hand to your weapon, but pulling it out and pointing it at the person is a bit extreme. On the other hand, he guy's response was also just plain rude and body-shaming like that isn't okay, although I admit I probably wouldn't have felt charitable towards someone responding to me trying to return their keys by literally threatening me with a knife. Still, his comment was out of proportion to the situation, completely rude, and who even thinks to say that? So yeah, you both suck.