By pretty poly - 10/11/2020 11:01
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"Under the impression?" With something as risky as this, you needed to make all agreements explicit. Hey, if you're letting her fuck your husband, you might as well get her to do some housework and child-rearing while she's there.
1. Open marriages can and do work for more people than you'd think. 2. Not every open marriage is on a sex only, no feelings basis. Some people are willing to let their partners form a deeper connection with others, even to fall in love outside the marriage, because loving a new person doesn't have to mean you love your existing partner(s) any less. The important thing is communication.
Assumptions have no place in a polyamorous situation. Boundaries need to be discussed and agreed with all parties, and if anyone wants to make changes that needs to be discussed and agreed too! There's absolutely nothing wrong with a secondary partner having more involvement in the non-sexual lives of a primary couple if it's agreed upon, but trying to force it when one party is uncomfortable isn't cool. It sounds like you need to speak with your husband and girlfriend and figure all this out together.