By Bg2466 - 15/08/2016 03:17 - United States - Pittsburgh
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You're a terrible flirt if she thought you were just being rude! Sorry, OP. Flirting doesn't come natural to some.
He's getting paid to serve drinks or whatever, not pick up chicks. He might have made her uncomfortable or just be inappropriate like comment on her tits. He might have been nasty or dismissive if she shot him down--we got one side. Anyway, there's some reasons, 32.
In some situations, flirting on workplace can even make female customers scared: for example, hotels or taxis. A taxi driver was trying to flirt with me the other night, but the situation felt almost like harassment. He kept telling me how much he likes girls of Eastern European origin and how pretty he considered me to be (in a late night taxi, when I had already given him my home address and I live alone), he tried to get me to reveal my workplace and full name. As we got there, I only had a larger note. He was deliberately stalling with exchange money, while asking "Which pubs do you go to? Where could I see you again?" I ended up telling him to keep the change and running inside. Still considering a complaint as well.
Unless you work as a dancer at a strip club, you probably shouldn't be flirting with customers, OP.
You should never ever flirt with people on the job, neither customers or other employees. That's not appropriate in a work environment where you are supposed to be professional, and it also makes some customers uncomfortable and puts them in an awkward position.
I think the only exception to this would be bartenders/ erotic dancers-- customer wise. Aside from that, it can make coworkers and customers ( who your job is to please and make sure they want to come back with exceptional service ) highly uncomfortable or disgruntled. So really, anyone should "follow" Rule #2, it's common sense.
Speaking from experience working at a fine-dining restaurant, service and professionalism is always key. People don't visit your establishment to make friends or be flirted with. They are here for a service and for you to render it. Of course, you can meld your personality into it, but never cross that line of being unprofessional. YDI
Maybe she misinterpreted your moves or what you were saying. Be bolder next time. "You and me need to get a cup of coffee."
She probably picked up on your intentions. Flirting with customers is inappropriate and rude. I once had a waiter leave me his number on my copy of the receipt (along with showing up at the bar my friends and I had been talking about going to after). I felt I couldn't go back to the restaurant again, though in hindsight, I probably should have just complained to the manager.