By Loveless - 18/2/2021 07:02

Valentine's let down

Today, I spent Valentine's Day with my crush. Not as a romantic thing, though. Instead, she invited me to spend the weekend at her house with her whole family for her sister's birthday party. Not the kind of invitation I had in mind, but thanks anyway. At least chocolate won't let me down. FML
Lunar-Spice tells us more :
Hey, OP here! So, to explain, I've been really good friends with this girl for a while. She came out to me about six months ago, and I, in turn, came out to her. We had been dancing around topics like relationships and crushes for a long time. We've kind of flirted in the past, especially during game nights when we would play Truth Or Dare with two other close friends. We don't choose each other's truths or dares; we use an app that comes up with everything. So we have kissed in the past and sat on each other's laps, but I still didn't know how she truly felt about me. After reading some of your comments (21 and 30) who assured me that inviting me to her house was indeed a good sign, I decided to bite the bullet and confess to her. Actually, to be honest, I started by saying "I like you" and couldn't quite get the rest out. She had to make sure I meant in a romantic way. Super awkward, but we pushed past it. And to comment 22, you can go suck a lemon. She actually DOES feel the same way about me. I know, shocking. That's actually never happened before; I usually get rejected, so I couldn't quite process what was happening. And yes, she's known about my ENORMOUS crush for a while now, but for some reason didn't bring it up. It was actually comment 5 that gave me the final push to ask her. I had never heard about The Problem With Lesbian Sheep, so I had to look it up, but I am very grateful that I did. I think it was the visualization of the sheep that spurred me on. We had a movie night last night. She's a big fan of horror movies, so she popped the popcorn and I supplied the movie. I'm not sure where we'll go from here, but it's looking good guys!
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By  refticon  |  30

First to ever vote and comment on a FML! Seeing as you've spent the weekend there, she obviously means to go further with you, most solid relationships start from friendships and not from 1 time flings.

By  Bogrbon  |  22

So it says your gender is female (which is sometimes dubious on FML), but assuming that's true, do you know if your crush is interested in women? This seems like something a friend might do as well, and if she's straight, and you're crushing on her, it's probably not going to end up a happily ever after.

If you know she's a lesbian or bi, and she knows you are too, her inviting you on a family outing like this is actually a pretty good sign. (Same thing too if you're a man and she's straight and FML just mi-s-gendered you.)

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By  refticon  |  30

First to ever vote and comment on a FML! Seeing as you've spent the weekend there, she obviously means to go further with you, most solid relationships start from friendships and not from 1 time flings.

By  Bogrbon  |  22

So it says your gender is female (which is sometimes dubious on FML), but assuming that's true, do you know if your crush is interested in women? This seems like something a friend might do as well, and if she's straight, and you're crushing on her, it's probably not going to end up a happily ever after.

If you know she's a lesbian or bi, and she knows you are too, her inviting you on a family outing like this is actually a pretty good sign. (Same thing too if you're a man and she's straight and FML just mi-s-gendered you.)

By  Blimix  |  6

You're really lucky to have her as such a close friend, then. Crushes vanish (with or without relationships). Count your blessings. (Also, if she returns your interest, you may be encountering "The Problem of Lesbian Sheep," where each of you is hoping the other will make a move. The solution should be obvious, if scary.)

By  J15237  |  22

You turn her down and move on man. She clearly doesn’t like you romantically. Move on and go find somebody who does. Seriously though the entire weekend? You are so far stuck in the friends zone it’s embarrassing.

By  Lunar-Spice  |  9

Hey, OP here! So, to explain, I've been really good friends with this girl for a while. She came out to me about six months ago, and I, in turn, came out to her. We had been dancing around topics like relationships and crushes for a long time.

We've kind of flirted in the past, especially during game nights when we would play Truth Or Dare with two other close friends. We don't choose each other's truths or dares; we use an app that comes up with everything. So we have kissed in the past and sat on each other's laps, but I still didn't know how she truly felt about me. After reading some of your comments (21 and 30) who assured me that inviting me to her house was indeed a good sign, I decided to bite the bullet and confess to her. Actually, to be honest, I started by saying "I like you" and couldn't quite get the rest out. She had to make sure I meant in a romantic way. Super awkward, but we pushed past it.

And to comment 22, you can go suck a lemon. She actually DOES feel the same way about me. I know, shocking. That's actually never happened before; I usually get rejected, so I couldn't quite process what was happening. And yes, she's known about my ENORMOUS crush for a while now, but for some reason didn't bring it up.

It was actually comment 5 that gave me the final push to ask her. I had never heard about The Problem With Lesbian Sheep, so I had to look it up, but I am very grateful that I did. I think it was the visualization of the sheep that spurred me on.

We had a movie night last night. She's a big fan of horror movies, so she popped the popcorn and I supplied the movie. I'm not sure where we'll go from here, but it's looking good guys!