By so_this_is_me - 30/06/2016 18:21
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Just to clarify, the dress code was business casual but since it was on a farm, I was trying to choose comfortable, practical shoes that would not get totally ruined and that still looked nice which proved to be a bit of a challenge. After lots of shopping around and trying on many pairs of shoes, I found a pair of flats and I ended up wearing those. It did rain pretty heavily later so I ended up getting permission to change into shoes that I wouldn't mind getting muddy. This had absolutely nothing to do with entitlement, I was just trying to be practical :)
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Just because it's on a farm, doesn't mean you can automatically wear whatever you like. The people getting married likely chose the farm because it was significant to them, you should have followed normal wedding attire unless told otherwise.
I don't think it's entitlement here, I think it's more the OP is female and doesn't want to wear nice (or as I was thinking, open toe) shoes on a farm. I wasn't getting the sense that she wasn't taking it seriously, as I can totally see where she'd be coming from. Even as a guy I can sympathize, and in all honesty, while not ideal, guys dress shoes are way, way better traipsing through mud than women's.
What you wear is a sign that you respect the significance of the occasion. It's also a chance for you to look your best - I hear many people find their significant others at weddings, so maybe you want to pull out the Cinderella slippers which you can conveniently "lose" at the end of the night while changing into sneakers. ;)