Anonymous
Minneapolis, United States
Today, my husband told me he doesn't like who I've become, saying I don't listen to his stories and am dismissive when he's trying to make small talk with me. If that's true, it's only because every word out of his mouth for months has been a complaint or a criticism. About absolutely everything. FML
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crimsonclouds 19
While every relationship has its ups and downs, there seems to be something a bit deeper here, perhaps counseling would be best! I hope everything works out!
Zeus_strike_me_w 15
Well, if he behaves like this maybe he has a problem. You don't spend all of your time complaining or criticizing if you are happy with your life (and I must guess this isn't his nature, otherwise you wouldn't be posting this). As his mate you should try to understand what's wrong, not dismiss him. However, it may be that you tried and he wouldn't listen. If that's the case than you probably have a bigger problem
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WeirdUS 30
If he's constantly criticizing it might just be nitpicking but thinks he's being helpful definitely talk to him about it and let them know criticizing everything doesn't mean being helpful and it makes other criticisms seem less important because he does it so much
Nailah Butler 4
I just broke up with my ex for the same. He claims he should be able to speak his mind and I'm too sensitive but I never dated anyone with such negativity. It was exhausting
core01 30
"too sensitive" is code word for "I wanna be an asshole and I want you to accept it".
pelletman67 16
You aren't communicating with him apparently. Maybe some of these things drive him insane. Try picking out some things and meet half way. It may not mean he doesn't love you but what doesn't bother one person can drive another crazy. After 31 years of my marriage we still remind each other and make a real effort to do our best to try please each other. When we do fail we will also make an effort to express our love for one another
AmbrosiaFan 19
So do you listen and commiserate or do you just ignore it all? What does he complain about and criticize? He comes home to vent to his wife, who should be supportive. However if he is doing it about things you do or don't do, are they valid complaints? If not, then tell him off. If so, take it to heart. Married to someone I've been with for 14 years.
piinksock 17
A healthy relationship has criticisms, you need to listen and work on them. He clearly wants to sort through issues with you and you're ignoring him. Would you prefer he didn't say anything and withdrew until your relationship fell apart. Sorry if that's not the case, but you're coming across like you think you're entirely blameless. Even if he was critical to the point of cruelty, then you need to bring that up, not ignore him.
DanielleD93 16
Sounds like my dad
DanielleD93 16
Sounds like my dad
Atmey 5
Reminds me of something....
derschadenfreude 5
then dump him, genius