Anonymous
Minneapolis, United States
Today, my husband told me he doesn't like who I've become, saying I don't listen to his stories and am dismissive when he's trying to make small talk with me. If that's true, it's only because every word out of his mouth for months has been a complaint or a criticism. About absolutely everything. FML
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crimsonclouds 19
While every relationship has its ups and downs, there seems to be something a bit deeper here, perhaps counseling would be best! I hope everything works out!
Zeus_strike_me_w 15
Well, if he behaves like this maybe he has a problem. You don't spend all of your time complaining or criticizing if you are happy with your life (and I must guess this isn't his nature, otherwise you wouldn't be posting this). As his mate you should try to understand what's wrong, not dismiss him. However, it may be that you tried and he wouldn't listen. If that's the case than you probably have a bigger problem
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crimsonclouds 19
While every relationship has its ups and downs, there seems to be something a bit deeper here, perhaps counseling would be best! I hope everything works out!
Zeus_strike_me_w 15
Well, if he behaves like this maybe he has a problem. You don't spend all of your time complaining or criticizing if you are happy with your life (and I must guess this isn't his nature, otherwise you wouldn't be posting this). As his mate you should try to understand what's wrong, not dismiss him. However, it may be that you tried and he wouldn't listen. If that's the case than you probably have a bigger problem
hodula1 19
I wish I could give you more than one thumbs up for this. :)
carbonight90 7
In all honestly sounds like he is sexually frustrated maybe you guys should plan a date night together (please plan together so that both your interest are met) and see where it leads.
clane_0000 12
thumbs up for the honesty lol
Lalala579121 28
I have no idea where you get him being sexually frustrated from this. We have no idea what their sex life is like as it wasn't part of the FML.
species4872 20
At least he makes an effort to talk to you which is a lot more then some people get, (not a personal reference mind you). Is his stories at least funny?
Mauskau 36
Sounds like my dad. Leave whilst you can, it won't get any better.
littlefoott69 14
when your comment is a vague stereotype comment like "everything" and "for months" you are dismissive and likely not listening to much he says..many people bond and chat about common dislikes like politics, traffic , work etc..etc . if he is not worth your time to just listen and comment and maybe steer the conversation to somthing more mutually interesting, then you should rethink your relationship. ...communication is key in a marriage.
jeepguy83 14
How about instead of dismissing his criticism, you listen to him, have a conversation with him, and see if you can solve some of the problems together. My experience has shown that neither partners are free of faults, and both need to work hard to make the other happy.
gar2014 23
I'm going through the same problem right now and I would be your husband ??? I don't know why I'm being like this but I'm not happy ... it's just comfortable !!!
jennisyn 11
i just got out of a 10+ year relationship and that was one of the reasons I left
greeniegenius 20
Me too... And literally everything out of my exes mouth was super critical and abusive to me... Of course he was always upset I wouldn't agree with him! Glad it finally over. Good luck OP
rivenrock 14
No idea why almost everyone is blaming you, OP, for getting worn down by someone who is constantly critical and negative. I only hope you explained to your husband what you did to us, and that you were both willing to try to change the situation. Good luck with it!