By NordicNathan - 14/03/2016 04:49 - Canada - Burlington

Today, my girlfriend of two months and I are in completely different points in our lives. She ambushed me with ideas of having kids, getting married and being together forever. Currently, my biggest concern is passing the tenth grade. FML
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NordicNathan tells us more.

Hey, I'm the author of the FML. So to clarify I just turned 16, she just turned 17 and is in the 12th grade. I've had my doubts about our relationship for a while because of how incompatible we are as people, but her talking about what she wants to name our kids and how cute they will be was kind of the last straw for me. She said "I love you" after our second time seeing each other and after she had already cheated on me, so I definitely hear all the comments about telling her my concerns and/or breaking up with her. But she cries at the drop of a hat and is what I would consider emotionally unstable, this is also the reason I didn't break up with her after she cheated on me. I wasn't raised to make people cry so I tried to be understanding in the situation. She is so bad that she is still crying about her previous boyfriend while telling me that I'm the best boyfriend ever. So I don't know how to break it to her without crushing her. Any ideas?

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Not a bad boyfriend. Just a boyfriend that has his priorities straight.

I'm glad for once someone has their priorities straight

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Not a bad boyfriend. Just a boyfriend that has his priorities straight.

are those really the priorities, that are straight?

36, I feel like you didn't understand the post.

I knew that women mature earlier than guys but gosh this is beyond K R A Z Y ! !

#81, it's C R A Z Y, not "K R A Z Y". Learn English.

nah adding the "k" makes it even more krazy

You know, this is precisely why we (the United States) are not one of the top nations for college students and whatnot. We could be, if we actually took the time to learn the English language and not fall asleep in classes, we might have a decent chance of getting scholarships in college more often, get a great job, and maybe actually loosen the huge debt upon the United States. But here we are, creating the most stupid and lazy slang ever.

Oh, and adding the spaces and capitalizing everything just makes you seem more of a dumbass.

I think it was a joke?

It might have been, but that doesn't protect anybody from their dumbass nature.

You have a name mentioning a ghetto mango, you are in no shape to speak about dumbass nature. It was a joke and your incapacity to figure that out proves the very same point you were trying to make. We obviously do need a better education, plus some classes for sensitive whiny cunts like you that can't deal with someone writing a word differently. Fucking dumbass.

I hate incorrect spelling to the max, and my nickname is also the name of the bar I'm eventually going to open. If I was going to be whiny, I would have phrased it differently. The comment sure as hell didn't sound like a joke, and it somewhat made the commenter sound like a high school cheerleader girl. I'm not sensitive, I'm just really angry at society for being lazy and making stupid words and abrreviating words. Oh, and PS- I showered this morning. Adios!

so many grammar mistakes.... whatnot is not a word, there are in fact two words: "what not" or "what-not" at least. also abrr....what-a-what?! ab-bre-vi-ate is proper, so abbreviation would consist of double Bs not double Rs. I'm glad you are a good student, but, sadly, its not enough to pump up education in the US, let alone solve the problem w/ the huge debt.. but as a good student you should understand sarcasm n jokes as well. they may not be funny (to you), but you are going to look stupid if you simply reject 'em. if you believe that's the way "krazy" is spelled - surely you are dumb, but if u KNOW its "crazy", yet trying to make a joke.. well... you may not be funny, but hardly stupid. i was born in Europe; i was already bilingual before(Romanian n Russian), aside from English n Spanish ive picked up over here in US later on, plus tad bit of French. And even though my English is better than most of my friends' - same people that call English their 1st and/or only language - i understand there's no limit to perfection. For as many things as i know, there always will be those i missed along the way. just like in your case, i may have a point but i bet I've misspelled things here or there. But you can always help people! I'm a walking dictionary for my friends n fam.. I'm sure they would have a lot to learn from you, but you cannot be a giant douche about it(!!!).. Nobody likes that, much less - taking advice from one. Knowledge is not only great power, but great responsibility, my young grasshopper ?

Oh, and I have a 4.0 GPA, I'm smartest in my class, and I read the dictionary. I'm also bilingual. Können Sie diese , Herr so intelligent übersetzen?

Es muy fácil llamar a alguien idiota cuando usted no sabe su inteligencia , ¿verdad ?

Hey Ghetto. You are a fucking idiot. Learn to read a fucking joke and relax your tight panties a little.

Sorry. I'm clearly such an onbnoxious prude. Thanks. I never realized how truly wound up I was.

Ghetto, how can you say their joke doesn't sound like a joke? tou are the idiot thinking you can hear words

I'm glad for once someone has their priorities straight

TMO2142 25

i had the same issue. i got out of that relationship. she was stressing me out

Yeah my first girlfriend was crazy. In the seventh grade I dated this girl for three days, because the second day she started saying "I love you" and was planning our marriage. When I broke up with her she broke my nose smashed my phone.

That is why my parents won't allow me to have a girlfriend until after I get out of college. And because of this post.

Why do you let your parents make your decisions for you

Why even date in the 7th grade, I'm dating as a sophomore but you shouldn't date without the intent that you COULD marry them

Why date at all?

dating is fun and you experience feelings never felt before. how would you know if you are truly in love without messing up or learning your feelings work?

True, but I hate relationships to the max. I have had several terrible experiences with relationships, and I actually WANT to stay a single virgin forever. I have already started on the crazy cat librarian thing ( I love books and cats), and I have no bit of caring for any relationship, whether boyfriend or girlfriend.

that's called "fear". just because you've had a few bad experiences with young n stupid shouldn't stop you from exploring it further. however, you said you love books n cats? i do too, so let me help you out a bit. one cat-lover to another lol ..don't waste your time on useless. if the whole 'cat-person-librarian-no-sex-thing' n w.e else your image consists of.. if thats not the person of their dreams, they are not even worth the time. however if what you are is perfect to them - thats a promising start. do mind that it might end badly anyway, just sometimes things you experience throughout the relationship are worth the tragic end. see for yourself, trust your instincts, cuz none of us know what's best for you, but yourself. just don't let fear stop you from greatness n all the amazing things life has in store; they are not all bad, you know ? if you dated a 'lollipop' n didn't like it, maybe your body is "craving" 'broccoli ' or the other way around?? p.s. u don't have to have sex to enjoy yourself. if you knew when i lost my v-card, you wouldn't believe me. but believe me on this, if they really like you, they would never pressure! Contrary, they would do anything to make you HAPPY. u don't have to settle, be picky! Sometimes things are right in front of us, we just have to open our minds to it ?

no more "16 and pregnant" for her

Are y'all both in high school? And is she like dreaming or planning cause 2 months is like really early.

It says the OP is in 10th grade, I'm guessing the gf is around the same age, so yes, still in high school. Also, whether it's dreaming, planning or ideas, it doesn't matter. At 15 and still in school, that's early to be discussing kids, marriage and being together forever. They're still just kids, maturity levels are too low to be seriously discussing eternity together and such life changing topics. Especially after only 2 months, they barely know each other after only dating for that amount of time. The OP has the right ideas here, finish 10th grade first and focus on important things.

Not sure why 5 is down-thumbed so much. We know how old OP is, but know nothing about OP's girlfriend. She could be older or younger. And she asked if she's dreaming or being serious. Those are legitimate questions.

Even if she is older, the OP is still 15 and in 10th grade, it is still too early to be thinking of such things and if she is older it would sort of be like pressuring, assuming the gf is being serious. I don't see how that matters if she is older and like 16/17/18 is still pretty early to be discussing children, marriage, and being together forever. If she's 18+, well than that's illegal and even worse.

That's what you get for dating your teacher ... Maybe she is joking? In all seriousness, talk with her to see if she can be reasonable. Otherwise get out of that relationship quickly.

Get out, and run. You have your priorities straight. She needs to get back to reality.

And I thought I had big expectations. Good luck with that. I know the struggle. I'm in 9th and have finals next week. A girlfriend is definitely not the top priority. But hopefully she calms down.

rldostie 19

Run, and keep running straight towards college and put that nonsense behind you. There's always time to have kids later. Once you have them, I can promise you that school and career becomes infinitely more complicated to finish/progress.

I rarely advocate breaking up, but this seems to be a thoroughly unhealthy relationship (if I am reading correctly). I'm also very curious as to how old she is, because if she's in high school like you, then the LAST thing she should be considering is pregnancy. If it is one of those puppy love-style musings about how cute the kids will be or whatever, it may just be a phase, but if she's seriously considering doing that shit right NOW, then you might really want to run away. Think carefully.

Hey, I'm the author of the FML. So to clarify I just turned 16, she just turned 17 and is in the 12th grade. I've had my doubts about our relationship for a while because of how incompatible we are as people, but her talking about what she wants to name our kids and how cute they will be was kind of the last straw for me. She said "I love you" after our second time seeing each other and after she had already cheated on me, so I definitely hear all the comments about telling her my concerns and/or breaking up with her. But she cries at the drop of a hat and is what I would consider emotionally unstable, this is also the reason I didn't break up with her after she cheated on me. I wasn't raised to make people cry so I tried to be understanding in the situation. She is so bad that she is still crying about her previous boyfriend while telling me that I'm the best boyfriend ever. So I don't know how to break it to her without crushing her. Any ideas?

You might gently break it to her. You should always get out of a relationship you don't need to be in. If she cries, then just let it go. Let her go. If she cheated on you once, she'll most likely do it again. She might also have a condition and might need to see someone about that. Best of luck for your realtionships!

She's gonna have to deal with real life at some point, and you shouldn't burden yourself with her issues. Break up with her nicely, and maybe with a close friend or two as witnesses so she can't try to make you the villain. If not that, she's in 12th grade and you can just stop contact with her once she's out of school. Good luck, sounds like you're gonna need it.

staying with a girl because you don't want to make her cry is not ok. from what you are saying, she sounds like she had serious self esteem issues. you need to end things and you need to stay away from her. I'm a hs teacher and I see this all the time. she's using emotional blackmail to hold you hostage in your relationship. you need to think of your self and your future. please get out before is too late.

break it to her calmly, I was in a similar situation, and sadly there's no real good way to deal with if, you just gotta suck it up, and get over the crying part, I was raised the same way, but it is difficult to avoid it, good luck

Maybe tell her when after she leaves school? Then you won't have to see each other too much. That is a few months away, though.

sooner is better than later to break up with her. We had a girl like that in grade 11. she cried so hysterically that the french class was all but cancelled due to her sobbing even when it got moved outside "but we were going to have a house together and two children" wha wha whaaaa something to note here - its not the boyfriend that is important, its the house and kids. so it won't matter WHO she ends up with, it just has to fit the image in her head. Best to break it off clean and move on ASAP

Just do it man, no easy way to. No use in letting her stop and tear down your life too.

Nothing to it but to do it!

get with her best friend for the night

ciddiols 11

You poor thing Get outta there fast remember your only 16 you'll have lots of crazy girls telling you they love you ! Good luck

If you end it sooner than later she won't have more memories to cry about. If she already cheated on you it will happen again.

Unlucky1232 20

look there is no good way of breaking up here. Just be blunt and if she cries i hate to be an ass but she deserved it. I believe cheaters can redeem themselves (evident by my father) but she is abusing your weakness of not being able to cause people to cry. She's a bitch and deserves to be dumped simple as that. I know i sound like an ass but am i really wrong?

Reading what you said I have to wonder if this girl is actually as emotionally unstable as she's putting out there. She reminds me of a girl that my son dated briefly, it was okay for her to start anything and keep it going for days but if he even asked her to cool it because they were in public she would freak out and cry for hours until he apologized like he had done something wrong. Either way, you are too young to be dealing with this kind of drama. If you are truly worried about her emotional stability is there a guidance counselor or someone at school you can go to to help guide you through this? I wish you all the luck and I hope that you follow through with the good advice that's on here about moving on without her. You seem like a good guy with his head on his shoulders straight and I commend you for trying to do the right thing by her, but you don't need this spinning you around while you try to figure out what your future is. Especially considering she's planning what wedding dress to wear and the christening clothes for the babies.

You need to end the relationship immediately. I would not trust her in any way. She sounds like the type of person that will get pregnant to trap you. She is controlling you by crying if you try to break up with her. She obviously knows how your mind works. I advise breaking up with her in public and maybe give her friends a heads up so that they can comfort her. You are too young for a serious relationship like this and no one should be held hostage in a relationship. The longer you wait, the worse it will get. I suggest you run far, far away from this one. I wish you luck!

dragoongirl90 34

"Welcome to Dumpsville, baby. Population: You." Or: Three words: "I am gay."

ramonyup1 6

just let it fade away slowly so that she'll also want to break up

you are so whipped. shes playing you.

There will be no easy way to tell her. She is gonna throw tantrums, threaten suicide, maybe even do the stalking bit. Only option is to tell her you have gone gay. Make up some story around that