By bettysue - 06/02/2009 15:37 - United States

Today, I went on a first date with a guy I met at a speed dating event. He recommended the lamb shank, which I ordered without looking at the menu. When the waiter took my order, my date said, "wait, the lamb is $27, why don't you get the chicken". He then ordered the lamb for himself. FML
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The facts are this: 1) I was asked out on a date. 2) I don't care about money. 3) I let him pick the restaurant so that he could keep it in his price range. I even offered to do coffee instead of dinner so that it wasn't a waste of money if we didn't have any real connection anyway. 4) He had been to the restaurant before and ordered the lamb dish, so he knew how much money it was. 5) I ordered water to drink. 6) He didn't even let me look at the menu before he recommended I get the lamb dish, because if I had I would never have selected a meal that was that expensive. 7) He told me to change my order in front of the waiter, and then ordered the lamb for himself. Not wanting to be a total bitch, I didn't complain, but at that point I expected him to pay for dinner. if I couldn't order what I wanted, why the hell should I pay? To all of you losers out there who weren't brought up properly, this is not the way to go about taking a woman on a first date. If you can't understand that, then I feel sorry for you. The whole point of this site is to tell humorous stories about everyday, insignificant things that people can relate to because we've all been there. It was a bad first date, but I think its a funny story. Whatever.

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And sarcasm isn't helping. I'd be frustrated too! So think a bit before you comment such rude things, it's not nice!

I'm so tired of people whining, "OH IT'S A DOUBLE STANDARD THAT MEN HAVE TO PAY!" No, jackass. If YOU invite someone out on a date, YOU pay. When I take my S/O out on dates, I PAY. When he offers to take me out, HE PAYS. IF YOU GUYS DECIDE TOGETHER, YOU BOTH PAY. WHAT THE FUCK IS SO HARD TO FIGURE OUT ABOUT THIS CONCEPT.

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You're fucking dumb...I don't know who you know, but all the guys I know are outspoken as hell, haha going with the flow my ass, you gotta porn collection, endless amounts of lube, and tons of tissue in your room...I can tell, no girl I know would be with a hot mess like you...assort authority....smdh at you

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Dude, FUCK you...that's all...

i wish i could find a guy like that.

The facts are this: 1) I was asked out on a date. 2) I don't care about money. 3) I let him pick the restaurant so that he could keep it in his price range. I even offered to do coffee instead of dinner so that it wasn't a waste of money if we didn't have any real connection anyway. 4) He had been to the restaurant before and ordered the lamb dish, so he knew how much money it was. 5) I ordered water to drink. 6) He didn't even let me look at the menu before he recommended I get the lamb dish, because if I had I would never have selected a meal that was that expensive. 7) He told me to change my order in front of the waiter, and then ordered the lamb for himself. Not wanting to be a total bitch, I didn't complain, but at that point I expected him to pay for dinner. if I couldn't order what I wanted, why the hell should I pay? To all of you losers out there who weren't brought up properly, this is not the way to go about taking a woman on a first date. If you can't understand that, then I feel sorry for you. The whole point of this site is to tell humorous stories about everyday, insignificant things that people can relate to because we've all been there. It was a bad first date, but I think its a funny story. Whatever.

Someone sure is angry.

And sarcasm isn't helping. I'd be frustrated too! So think a bit before you comment such rude things, it's not nice!

You know I don't understand this double standard, why does the man always have to pay and I'm not saying I don't pay it's just woman always think that the guy HAS to pay. I'm not saying this is you OP but I'm just putting it out there that it really is messed up.

If a man asks out a women, he pays.if a woman asks a man on a date, she pays. It's as simple as that.

I'm so tired of people whining, "OH IT'S A DOUBLE STANDARD THAT MEN HAVE TO PAY!" No, jackass. If YOU invite someone out on a date, YOU pay. When I take my S/O out on dates, I PAY. When he offers to take me out, HE PAYS. IF YOU GUYS DECIDE TOGETHER, YOU BOTH PAY. WHAT THE FUCK IS SO HARD TO FIGURE OUT ABOUT THIS CONCEPT.

Whether it's a date or not if I invite someone somewhere I pay, coffee, dinner, a movie, anything because I think it's a polite thing to do. If they invite me, they pay unless specified before the event. If we decide to go together we split the bill. I thought that was just normal and polite? He asked her, he pays unless specified.

I think that for the first few dates, the man should pay. After being together, it should go back and forth because nobody needs to spend all of their money and be struggling. But for the first few dates, the woman could always offer (even if it's just to leave the tip or get the popcorn). It has just always been that the man is the "bread winner" and this ideology goes into our society today.

Well clearly you weren't going to pay anyway so why blame him for not wanting to spend that much on some clearly shallow girl?

Who cares about other people's random negative opinions? Don't waste your energy responding to their diatribe. It was funny!

You're right, I shouldn't be so sensitive to other people's opinions. Everyone is entitled to their own thoughts. Fuck 'em if they can't take a joke. The chicken was kabob style on a bed of curry rice with veggies. Pretty good actually. Thanks for asking. Ha!

Ugh...those guys suck. A friend of mine went on a blind date with a guy that was cheap too. First he asks her if he can help pay for gas. Then for dinner takes her to MacDonalds and tells her to choose only from the dollar menu and he pays. Then he asks if she would like to go get ice cream. Once they order it he asks if she can pay. Someone may ask if he is poor...well guess what...he was a lawyer with a good job and good pay.

wow that's pretty rude! I hope she didn't go out with him again!

Fucking men, seriously...I'm all about equal, but DAMN...

He should have just taken her for coffee or ice cream then. He would be able to afford it without seeming cheap (even if he can afford it anyway)

Lol, people are crazy. Guys, we should always pay if we asked the girl out if for no other reason than to see what kind of girl we brought out. If she orders something that is $30 than we know she is a material, high maintence princess. If she orders lettuce with a cherry tomato on the side then we know she has obvious self image and confidence issues. Use what she orders as an oppurtunity to learn more about the girl. If she is cute and orders up wings and a beer, well then you got yourself a keeper!

lol not all girls like beer and do the wings have 2 be spicy cause i like the bbq ones they dont give me heartburn lol *im more of a vodka kinda girl lol

Not really. Sometimes I'll order a $30 entree, but I usually don't order it on a date if the otter person is paying. And I'm certainly not high maintenance. And other times I'll order a salad, but I'm not overly concerned about my weight. Stop stereotyping us.

Dude, that is the most bad ass awesome answer here! So true, and I never even thought of it that way... Very nicely said! ;-)

I'm far from a material, high maintenance princess but if you're going to use the food I eat as a guide you'll easily think I am. I'm a very picky eater (and have to be due to medical reasons and allergies) and often what I can eat costs more. Which is why I'll happily go for a coffee date over a dinner date so they won't judge me like that.

Theres alot of jerks in this post. damn, all you cheap males. I bet you arent Asians. I agree with number 29. In our culture, we always pay for the first date. I mean come on, if you're not willing to spend a little money on a woman you're interested in, then why bother?