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By Nebula - 27/06/2016 06:30 - United States - Vassar

Today, I was left by my girlfriend of 3 years because I was over-jealous of her male friend because they would hang out all the time. They are now dating. FML
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I am pretty sure things were heading down that road before she broke up and used it as an excuse. I had a similar experience. My SO was friends with a coworker creeper. He was most definitely guiding things and putting ideas in her head about our relationship. The frontal assault NEVER works however. You have to be as sneaky as they are.

Maybe OP had a good reason not to trust her? But you're right, without trust, there's hardly a relationship

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Okay... So you drove her away by being overly jealous, essentially playing a role in them starting to date, and...? What, are surprised there were consequences for not trusting your GF? I'm finding it hard to feel bad for you, especially since you admit to being "over jealous" which sounds like you are admitting to having engaged in unhealthy behavior towards her.

Maybe OP had a good reason not to trust her? But you're right, without trust, there's hardly a relationship

That's part of what I don't get. If he didn't trust her to hang out with a male friend, why did he stay in an unbalanced relationship for three years? Seriously, if you don't trust someone don't date them.

Considering that the relationship has been ongoing for three years, and OP admits to being "over jealous" I wouldn't be surprised if she started spending more and more time with the guy friend because OP was being overbearing. Especially since I have seen it happen repeatedly where person a is unhealthily controlling over who person b spends time with, to the point that they push b closer to person c. It's called the triangulation effect, and I'm willing to guess it is at play here. My point here still stands- OP admitted to behavior that is unhealthy, but was surprised by their GF breaking up with them over the lack of trust. Nevermind that, if he's been having suspicions about this for as long as is implied, he should have called it off earlier. As for the GF- if OP really was pushing at her the way it sounds like he was, I can't say I blame her for jumping ship, especially since we have no idea how extreme his "over jealous" behavior was. Maybe going straight into dating the guy friend is a bit suspect, but considering it seems like OP had been insinuating to her face that she was already dating him, I could understand dating him immediately after breaking up, if only as a 'fuck you' to OP for the behavior. Seriously, if OP couldn't trust her that she was just friends with the guy at the time, he shouldn't have dated her. Relationships without trust are not healthy- and regardless of who is at fault here, the relationship wasn't a good one.

I am pretty sure things were heading down that road before she broke up and used it as an excuse. I had a similar experience. My SO was friends with a coworker creeper. He was most definitely guiding things and putting ideas in her head about our relationship. The frontal assault NEVER works however. You have to be as sneaky as they are.

YDI. She's probably only dating him to make you upset. What was she supposed to do? I'd be glad to end the relationship with you and move on to if you broke up with me not because I did something wrong, but because of your jealousy.

So essentially, you were right to be jealous. Honestly being jealous is not a bad thing, you just have to make sure you aren't a hypocrite. Like, if you don't want your s/o hanging out with a certain person, don't object if they don't want you hanging out with a certain person. Some people are just immature children, though, like your ex. You'll find someone worthwhile eventually.