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FML - The follow-up

Today, I found out that my husband told his mom that she can move in with us once his time in the army is over. We are moving into my house, and he didn't think it was important to run it by me first. FML

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Just to clear things up it is technically my house. My parents are rather well off and gave me a house and it's under my name. This was before we got married. Things he bought before we got married are technically his and things we have gotten since we have been married are ours. And for the person who said he defended our country so he should be allowed to do that, no honey just because he served our country doesn't make him entitled to make decisions like this without me. His mom has only met
By imchacon22 / Saturday 26 October 2013 22:42 / United States - Fort Riley
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Why are you waiting for him to change his mind? Tell him no - period. Remind him of the way she treated you on your one and only visit with her and tell him that you are not going to live like that on a full time basis. The fact that the house is in your name isn't even an issue here. What is an issue is that he thinks he can move people into the house without bothering to make sure that you are ok with it. Then again if he does not have the heart to say no he just might be waiting for you to

Just to clear things up it is technically my house. My parents are rather well off and gave me a house and it's under my name. This was before we got married. Things he bought before we got married are technically his and things we have gotten since we have been married are ours. And for the person who said he defended our country so he should be allowed to do that, no honey just because he served our country doesn't make him entitled to make decisions like this without me. His mom has only met

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Some in laws are cool, others are not. Granted you might just be a shitty in law yourself if you don't think the person deserves your kid. It's just the way the cookie crumbles.

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Forgive me if I'm wrong, but isn't it technically 50% his house anyway if you're married? ... Now before I get beat down, he should've asked you, hope your in laws nice blah blah blah

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7, I love my in-laws and my husband loves my family. I don't know if we could take them living with us for the fact that we don't want to live with our parents. But an extended visit wouldn't be terrible.

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#36 that is false. If her name is on something and not his , it is I fact hers. The house for instance. If it is entirely in her name, she can kick him out and he can't do Otho g about it. It's hers. The only thing the court can do is split the items they say they bought together. For instance her cell phone. It's i her name he can't just take it now can he? No. Same with the house. Her name her house. Just be purse your married it doesn't make everything automatically theirs too unless you bot

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#1, spoken like one who knows nothing of relationships. Once married, your spouse becomes your primary familial relationship. In Western cultures, inviting others into your home, especially parents, is usually a large strain and oft times it is destructive. The husband had a responsibility to talk with his wife before offering lodging to anyone, yes, even a parent.

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No, I'm sorry, that isn't how it actually works. Unless they have mutually agreed to co-own something, then what they own is their possession. Marrying someone doesn't automatically divid all their belongings in half. That's just silly.

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#75 - the issue isn't that the house is supposedly in OP's name. The issue is that OP is married and still distinguishing between what is "mine" and "yours". Kind of defies the purpose of becoming one, as clichéd as it sounds. For arguments sake, take this extreme example: does he need to ask for permission to use her shower? Or in a different case: let's say their car is in her name too. Would he need to ask permission to drive it? Granted, he should still have discusse

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59- I know where you're coming from with that. When I first used FML it seemed like every comment was a joke, or at least a humorous perspective. Now everyone takes everything so seriously. Looking down the thread of this FML I saw maybe two jokes. I took a hiatus for weeks from this site because of it. Now I come back and by the looks of it one of the three or four people trying to be humorous are being attacked simply for making a joke you didn't think was funny? Well I don't think any of

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Once your married isn't it ya'lls house? I am not saying I side with your husband. he should have talked it over with you, but it just strikes me odd that you said your house. Good luck OP

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#83 I'm glad to see that some of you still think that FML is actually a humorous website and if you want to have fun on a supposed light website like this and that you speak a bit of French then visit the French one, ppl can actually take jokes on there and don't take themselves so seriously !

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OP, how long have you two been married? I mean, your husband should know by now that all but the most minor decisions should be discussed together before the choice is made.

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I'd like to point out just because someone is serving in the military doesn't necessarily mean that they're deployed or going to be deployed. My father served in the military and as far as I know in the 20+ years has never been to war, as well as plenty of other friends/family that has or is serving has not nor will be deployed.

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This is a ridiculous statement. Ask yourself this: if a waiter at Dennys did this to his wife, would it be wrong? If yes, then it's wrong if an army man does it. Wrong is wrong; being in the military doesn't mean you get to play by different rules when it comes to your personal life. I honestly can't figure out why you think it does.

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They're married. It should be both their house. She's possessive of "her" things and he doesn't consult her for big decisions. It seems neither of them really thinks of marriage as a full partnership.

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You make it seem as if there was a possibility that she would never find out. The only way that would happen was if that was the plot of a sitcom. "In-laws, in the house, in disguise."

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I agree. We don't know what kind of arrangement they have - how many living places or how they got them - but clearly OP considers this her place and it's likely she owned it before the marriage. While maybe she shouldn't refuse her in law on the grounds that the place is hers (considering they're married), she could always refuse on the grounds that she does not want to live with her mother in law.

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