By Hobbits&LiarsOhMy! - 24/04/2017 11:06 - United States - Nacogdoches
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I'm the OP. So, let's be clear: I'm "5'6" and height isn't a big deal for me. What was important to me was that he lied. He also showed up to our meeting stoned off his ass, and then proceeded to throw a muddy basketball at me (which got all over my new shirt). Definitely not Prince Charming. I got out of there ASAP! I guess online dating just isn't my cup of tea. Thanks for the FML though! :)
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I don't understand why his height is a deal breaker to you. I, being a tall woman, have never had any issues dating men shorter than me. Assuming you were also attracted to his personality and not just his looks alone, he should still be a viable boyfriend. That said, it is a little concerning that he would lie about his height, but he most likely does that because of women who immediately refused date him because of his height. YDI for judging a book by its cover.
I see it as a red flag. He's dishonest. He claimed he was 5'-8" but turned out to be 5'-3". If he is dishonest about his height, who knows what else he is dishonest about. Having been there done that with online dating, you see this sort of thing quite often. Many of the girls I met would post photos from 5-10 years previous and would look nothing like they do now. I found it rare that a girl would post a current photo of themselves, the ones that would were the ones I would try to date because they showed honesty and didn't try the bait and switch tactic.
Oh, I see! Short-shaming is still acceptable? If a girl claims to be curvy or "thick," yet turns out to be morbidly obese, we're superficial pigs for not thinking she's perfect. Ok, I get itx
Yeah...and it makes it impossible for actual curvy people to be able to describe their body. Back when I did online dating, I stuck with "athletic," which I'm not really, but curvy or average meant plus size/overweight/fat, which I'm not either. Tl;dr meeting people in person is way better than online dating
No, that's not my problem. I'm of average height. It just irritates me that girls openly discriminate based on height, when men are chastised for discriminating based on body shape.
Boys/men discriminate on height, makeup, weight and many more. We can't act like a short guy is automatically going to go for a girl that's taller than him. A skinner guy isn't automatically going to go for a girl that's bigger than him. If a girl doesn't want to date a boy that's shorter than her, so what? I'm not going to date a guy that 5'1 when I'm 5'8, but some couples don't mind. Everyone has a preference, just because yours doesn't align with others it doesn't make their preference invalid.
I like online dating because I don't go to clubs or bars etc... so it's kinda hard to meet someone though I have found unfortunately the personality does not match up. They can hold a conversation online but not in person.
Met my boyfriend at a friend's cookout. Several of my friends found their significant others through friends, be it at a house party, cookout, or at a friend's band's show. All these relationships have generally been more solid than those of people I know who met online (myself included in the past).
Personally I'm only 5'6 and that's caused problems with dating in general in the past. However, I would never pass up a happy relationship because of the height difference. Sure I was a little self-conscious when I was dating my highschool girlfriend who happened to be taller at first, but after three years you kind of get use to something like that. Nice job OP, you possibly just let go of the man of your dreams because he was half a footlong sub shorter than you. YDI.
Is this FML not about the fact he lied? Like who knows what more he might lie about. 5' 8" isn't that tall either. So she obviously doesn't care that much about height. Come on guys. Lying=bad.
I'm only 4'11 and there was this guy whose online profile said he was 5'8, when we met he was actually about 5'2. Not an issue for me but he also spent the entire night on his phone so it was clear there was nothing there. I get that if he put his real height online he might have less luck but to increase it by that much is just a downright lie. You can't start a relationship on a lie.
This guy lied and didn't allow you to make a decision, and now because of the shock he or others accuse you of being shallow. You aren't shallow, you like everyone have prefences, but you aren't limited to them. Yet you were lied to, and that's not okay, it's just like ordering something online and it being the incorrect size or item. Not cool and you're allowed to be upset, hopefully you can point that out to him if you continue or part ways.
I'm sad that he felt he had to lie about his height to you- but your reaction pretty much proves you would have not given him a chance at all if he had not. Your loss- he's likely too good for you, given your shallow reaction.
He lied. End of story. That's enough to make me not want to date someone, especially right at the beginning. What they lied about is inconsequential. I've been in OP's shoes and dated people online who were dishonest like that, it isn't something you want to do as you tend to notice a trend of dishonesty.
why does height even matter. it's about the personality in the end. looks change personality doesnt