This is a Nearly FML. It’s an FML, nearly. It got positive votes from the users, by wasn’t approved by our team.
By Anonymous / Tuesday 1 November 2016 06:25 / United States
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  Tripartita  |  44

While it's nice that he's not being a dick about the lack of sex, he seems to neither care nor understand that she's actually feeling worse about not being able to go down on her. He seems more concerned with reciprocation than the fact that she's going crazy.

  Tripartita  |  44

I never said otherwise. Nowhere does my post imply either party has to have sex with the other. I just think his explanation is contradictory; simply declining would've sufficed.

  Tripartita  |  44

Yes, it's quite an invalid Implication to make… because I never actually implied that.

#1 said that he seemed understanding and caring. He might be; I don't know. What I do know is that she'd rather go down on her boyfriend and doesn't need reciprocation, and he clearly doesn't understand /that/. If he did understand and still declined, that'd be fine too.

I'm saying there's no evidence that turning down a blowjob makes him caring or understanding. Maybe he is, but this doesn't demonstrate it.

  tounces7  |  21

He may be caring - but he's clearly not very understanding. Denying your partner something they want to do for you because of your own ideals isn't really meeting their needs.

  tigerisabelle  |  31

He doesn't want a BJ because he feels he can't reciprocate, and he has decided that isn't something he wants. He's not obligated to agree to one just because she wants it.

It's the same if he was demanding one because she can't have sex. She doesn't have to give one, and he doesn't have to receive one. Simple as.

  demonlady666  |  5

There's not enough context. If OP had a surgery that required 4-6, even 8 weeks recovery time, then they can't/won't want to have insertion sex for that length of time, so it's understandable that they can't/won't relax about this. OP says they can't have sex for two weeks, but that can always change. They may go back to the doctor and the doctor may say 'stay away from sex for another 2 or so weeks'. And plus I don't think rubbing one out will help in this case.

  demonlady666  |  5

shit man, I spend quite bit of time on tumblr and they're get pretty butthurt about everything so I just pretty much assumed the rest of the internet is like that. so here's my revision:
man, I think you're an asshole because there's not enough context. op can't be fucked at the moment which she finds awful. maybe y'all need to get some yourselves.

By  CaroLouWho  |  10

On the plus side, your boyfriend sounds sweet, if to a fault. I see where that'd be obnoxious but it sounds like his heart is in the right place so I'd say just have a big damn talk about it and see if that helps.

By  acmariner99  |  19

I think you have a keeper there OP. He's going through the same thing as you. He's respecting you and himself. There are plenty of other ways to be intimate... cuddling, kissing, and a few other things that may not be appropriate for an online forum.

By  Selene1090  |  23

No sex for two weeks is going to kill you? And you're upset because your boyfriend is such a sweetheart that he doesn't want anything he can't give you back. Sounds like you need to reavaluate your priorities, sex isn't everything in a relationship.

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