By Katie - 29/08/2021 14:01 - United Kingdom
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Ya know...I've never understood this whole don't break up with them on specific days thing. If it's time to break up, it's time to break up. Why should any day be different than any other day? People put too much value in that stuff. If you associate pain with a particular day, that's on you. Heal yourself and move on. It's like people that have trust issue because they've been burned in the past. It doesn't matter if you've been burned a hundred times in the past, you still treat everyone like they are entirely different fr everyone else.
that's a very selfish was to look at things "it's time when it's time" is a horrible excuse please dont actually use it with someone. if you're breaking up with someone it means that you've put some thought into what you're going to do. that means it's only "time" because you decided it was time. the reason people wait is out of respect to the person they are going to hurt. just because a day isn't important to YOU doesn't mean it's not important. so to avoid excess misery we wait a while that way the person in question and their friends/family don't have the occasion ruined in addition to a break up. hope that clears things up
No, it's time when it is time. There is an OBJECTIVE time to end a relationship. It isn't subjective. Prolonging it to avoid giving someone else a perceived extra level of pain is what is selfish. The only reason you care is because you don't want to be perceived as bad because of the subjective value they hold in that day. I don't know about you, but I do the vast majority of things I do in my life for objective, reasoned, and healthy reasons. My feelings don't enter into it, and neither do anybody else's. You do what needs to be done when it needs to be done.