By Anonymous - 14/9/2021 19:01 - United States - Steele

Sorry Nana

Today, I skipped out on my grandmother's 70th birthday party. I'm autistic, and I have a hearing disorder that significantly enhances my hearing to a painful extent, so I couldn't tolerate how noisy it was. Now, my grandmother thinks I hate her because I put my mental health first. FML
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By  Chazzster  |  22

Sad, no matter how you look at it. Either OP has such an extreme case of autism they cannot tolerate grandmothers party or they just don’t want to stress themselves. Either way is understandable, but I can see how your absence might be misinterpreted.

I assume Grandma is already aware of OP’s autism and what that means. So she should be able to understand why they might skip the party. Talk to her and wish her happy birthday and tell her you wish you could be at the party.

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By  Chazzster  |  22

Sad, no matter how you look at it. Either OP has such an extreme case of autism they cannot tolerate grandmothers party or they just don’t want to stress themselves. Either way is understandable, but I can see how your absence might be misinterpreted.

I assume Grandma is already aware of OP’s autism and what that means. So she should be able to understand why they might skip the party. Talk to her and wish her happy birthday and tell her you wish you could be at the party.

By  RichardPencil  |  30

Maybe not hate, but she's right about her not being a priority for you.

Hopefully, she's not too close to death and you can get your shit together to weasel your way back into her will.

By  core01  |  30

I have serious distress at parties too. Instead of simply skipping, I set up a day before or after to celebrate with them. It makes my family members feel loved and appreciated, while allowing me to avoid situations that make me feel overwhelmed and drained. Or you can skip entirely, but don't expect them to give you their time/money when you won't do the same for them