By Charlie Given - 26/7/2021 01:53 - Canada - Ottawa

So compassionate

Today, I found out that yet another woman I was interested in is nothing but a addict. All the women I've tried to date for 3 years now have turned out to be fucked up in some major way. Why can't I just find a non-loser for a girlfriend? FML
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Holy shit I can't believe my FML got published thank you. I've been actively dating for about 3 years now, but it has been over 8 years since I've been intimate with a woman. Not that I haven't been trying but health issues with my child and I have have made it difficult sometimes to date. But some of the biggest issues have been finding someone who can look pass the fact that I'm a single dad with two kids and health issues. But afew ladies on occasion seemed like good possibilities. And we did start to get to know each other better only for me to realize that they were drunks, heavy drug addicts, abusive to their kids, trying to use me for weed or just leading me on for kicks and being ghosted alot. so all I can really do is keep looking and hoping. and for anyone wondering I live in the upper peninsula of Michigan if you're interested LOL don't know why it says Ottawa.
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By  Charlie Given  |  24

Holy shit I can't believe my FML got published thank you. I've been actively dating for about 3 years now, but it has been over 8 years since I've been intimate with a woman. Not that I haven't been trying but health issues with my child and I have have made it difficult sometimes to date. But some of the biggest issues have been finding someone who can look pass the fact that I'm a single dad with two kids and health issues. But afew ladies on occasion seemed like good possibilities. And we did start to get to know each other better only for me to realize that they were drunks, heavy drug addicts, abusive to their kids, trying to use me for weed or just leading me on for kicks and being ghosted alot. so all I can really do is keep looking and hoping. and for anyone wondering I live in the upper peninsula of Michigan if you're interested LOL don't know why it says Ottawa.

By  Plop  |  14

Well, are you sure you're a non-loser boyfriend?

You might want to consider the possibility that there's a personality trait you find attractive in women that statistically ties with having addiction problems, such as being extremely festive or depressed. It's not a problem in an of itself, but maybe a bit of introspection could help you dodge further bullets. Another possibility is that your exes aren't really addicts and that you're just being overly judgmental of their consumption habits.

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By  Plop  |  14

Well, are you sure you're a non-loser boyfriend?

You might want to consider the possibility that there's a personality trait you find attractive in women that statistically ties with having addiction problems, such as being extremely festive or depressed. It's not a problem in an of itself, but maybe a bit of introspection could help you dodge further bullets. Another possibility is that your exes aren't really addicts and that you're just being overly judgmental of their consumption habits.

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  Charlie Given  |  24

I actually thought for a while that it might be me. but I did come to the realization it has to do with the area in which I live it's isolated, about 70% of the population is low income and substance abuse is rampant especially meth, heroin, alcohol and pills. and I wasn't referring to recreational drug use I was referring to heavy daily usage of hard drugs like pills etc.

By  Charlie Given  |  24

Holy shit I can't believe my FML got published thank you. I've been actively dating for about 3 years now, but it has been over 8 years since I've been intimate with a woman. Not that I haven't been trying but health issues with my child and I have have made it difficult sometimes to date. But some of the biggest issues have been finding someone who can look pass the fact that I'm a single dad with two kids and health issues. But afew ladies on occasion seemed like good possibilities. And we did start to get to know each other better only for me to realize that they were drunks, heavy drug addicts, abusive to their kids, trying to use me for weed or just leading me on for kicks and being ghosted alot. so all I can really do is keep looking and hoping. and for anyone wondering I live in the upper peninsula of Michigan if you're interested LOL don't know why it says Ottawa.

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  Alan  |  54

That's odd. The location is added by an automated system, so… I guess it's not as accurate as it thinks it is.

“Just” a drug addict or a drunk?
Do you think yourself superior to these women? Do you have any idea whatsoever what it’s like to suffer from addiction?

It’s completely possible for decent—even wonderful—person to become an addict.

I’m not saying that you’re obligated to date anyone who could be a danger to you or your kids, but I wish you would try to more compassionate.

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  Charlie Given  |  24

I personally understand addiction from having it years ago. I just live in a shitty area we're about 70% is low income and were isolated and I wasn't referring to recreational drug use I was talking about daily heavy drug use of like meth, heroin, alcohol etc.