Hey.. Attraction is a weird thing, and very seldom logical. Some people are attracted to abusive partners because that is what they grew up with, so that feels familiar in some weird, twisted way. The subconscious can be a really stupid thing. But the sad fact is that it either is there, or it isn't. At least he tried to protect your feelings. Work on yourself and pursue your own happiness, that is ultimately what will make you attractive to a future partner.

I'm guessing she has self-confidence.

What a stupid jerk. Forget him. Lying should be a dealbreaker to you. If he lied about not wanting a relationship god knows what else he would lie about. You’re better off with someone honest and with integrity.

It took a LOT for you to reach out to him and ask him on that date. Good for you! It stinks that he lied to you, no way around it. Had he said he already had a date planned, you would have seen them and been upset, but you would have kept on pineing for him. As much as this hurts, you can now see him in a different light and stop your own daily anxiety and worry wondering if he liked you back. This is an opportunity to find someone who likes you back.

She's not giving off obsessed creepy stalker vibes? Just sayin'...

his interest. she has his interest. they could be together for years for all you know. now leave him alone

Take the L and move on.

This sounds like it should be made into a Deadpool meme.