Kids, Stressed out, Students, Education and Parents: Parental pressure

Parental pressure

By asian-indian-kid - 09/05/2022 02:00

Today, my dad reminded me that he expects me to try to get into a prestigious (read: top 5, braggable) university for undergrad. I just want to be normal and go to an above average school where I can thrive, instead of killing my mental health now and then mutilating its dead body after I go to college. FML

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By Anonymous - 24/11/2010 04:41 - United States

Today, I received my acceptance letter to one of the most prestigious universities in the US, as well as a nice scholarship. I was so proud of myself, I eagerly showed my dad, hoping he would shed a tear or two. His only words were, "Just get a job so you can get the hell out of my house." FML

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Thanks ma

By 1940s wants their attitude back - 29/09/2020 20:01 - United States

Today, I excitedly told my mom how I got accepted to the master’s program of my dreams. She decided now would be a good time to proudly repeat for the millionth time how she gave up a full ride to the Ivy League to marry my father, and I ought to be a "good woman" and do the same. FML

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By Anonymous - 13/12/2009 23:47 - United States

Today, I was accepted to college and received a scholarship equal to almost half the tuition. After sharing this news with my parents, I spent the next 35 minutes getting yelled at about how I wasn't allowed to go there because my boyfriend might go there. FML

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End student debt

By Reluctant Scholar - 08/03/2022 20:00 - United States - Bloomington

Today, I'm in a US college. I could've gone into a trade or internship, but no one listened. Now, while my parents brag to their friends that their child has a degree, I'll probably be spending the rest of life in crippling debt, sleeping on the side of the road, and begging strangers for table scraps. FML

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Considerate

By Anonymous - 21/08/2009 14:20 - United States

Today, my mother told me she's disappointed in me for not going to a better college, and that if I was in the top ten of my class that the rest of those ten must be really dumb. Fact is, I threw away the acceptance letters to Carnegie Mellon and Cornell because I didn't want her to have to pay. FML

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Thanks for the support

By Anonymous - 05/01/2022 10:59

Today, my dad completely disregards my mental health, insists mental disorders are just excuses for laziness in my generation, so even though I have crippling depression, at times he has no sympathy and will mercilessly bully me into “snapping out of it” and to "get a damn job already." FML

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By Anonymous - 30/04/2013 17:55 - United States - Hartford

Today, my guidance counselor told me that I'll have to join my school's special education needs sector. This is because I can't attend school properly due to chronic issues with severe pain. So much for my 3.9 GPA and being in the top 5% of my class. FML

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Thanks, dad

By manoloonfire - 21/12/2020 15:04 - Dominican Republic - Santo Domingo

Today, I'm a MD who graduated with honors. I can't work right now because I'm preparing myself for the medical residence exam. I want to be a cardiovascular surgeon. My dad is ashamed of me and treats me like shit, because I don't work and I'm 26 years-old, living with my parents while I'm studying. FML

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We don't need no education

By Anonymous - 07/07/2021 11:01

Today, I received a call from a top-rated university accepting me into the program of my dreams to begin my ultimate career. Two weeks ago, I accepted a permanent, full time and legally-binding job position in my depressive hometown because the school had previously rejected me. FML

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Failure on every level

By Jason - 07/12/2022 06:00

Today, I had a beautiful dream. I dreamed that I somehow got into Stanford University, but in class I couldn't keep up with them. In reality, I'm terrible at school. FML

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draghkar 18

Monday 9 May 2022 3:28

As a professional working at a Fortune 50 company for over 25 years, I’ve been asked about college once. It was to find out who I supported in the NCAA tournament. Meaning: no one cares what college you went to.

core01 30

Monday 9 May 2022 5:22

Who's paying? I'll take a lot of grief for a free ride to a top college. But if I'm paying with loans then I'd rather piss off dad

Comments

draghkar 18

Monday 9 May 2022 3:28

RichardPencil 30

Monday 9 May 2022 6:34

You neglected to put your degree. In some fields, graduating from a top school gives you a permanent advantage. If you're in a field that requires specific knowledge and skills, you need to get the most rigorous degree you can handle.

core01 30

Monday 9 May 2022 5:22

Who's paying? I'll take a lot of grief for a free ride to a top college. But if I'm paying with loans then I'd rather piss off dad

RichardPencil 30

Monday 9 May 2022 6:38

How smart are you? You need to find the right school for you.

MorganHex 28

Monday 9 May 2022 12:53

you can always just apply to the schools YOU want and make fake rejection letters from the ones your dad wants so you can do what I'd best for you. Your mental health will always be more important that what your parents want. that's not you being selfish it's THEM being selfish.

kitten79TX 5

Monday 9 May 2022 16:34

Do what's best for you. Your father will get over it.

rotflqtms_ 21

Tuesday 10 May 2022 19:03

Don't forget that the top 5 colleges also come with top 5 prices. If you're paying for your education/taking out loans for them, remind him that you don't feel comfortable taking out such a huge loan and being saddled with a huge debt. I left college with 17k in debt right before covid. I'm down to 9.8k in debt. I worked through college and took out a loan for an accelerated nursing program. You do you. You're gonna be the one paying for it and taking the classes, so you apply to the schools you wanna go to. Now if he's gonna pay the application fees, go ahead and apply. You may even win a scholarship/full ride. But at the end of the day, the decision is 100% yours what school you go to. If you get in, he'll have the bragging rights of the fact that you got into one of those, and that is good enough. He's not gonna be footing the bill or taking your classes for you, so it's your choice, not his.