By Marion - 14/10/2020 20:01 - United States - Portland
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Can someone enlighten me on this? I know these parties are a “thing” now I guess - a seemingly innocuous excuse to have another get-together with your friends besides the baby shower - but how are they dangerous? I understand that some idiots have blown things way out of proportion - literally - blowing things up and starting fires and doing dumb shit. But is that the norm? I imagine most of the parties are probably like I said just an excuse to have a little party and probably fairly boring lol. Am I missing something? Or is this one of those things everyone hates on because it’s new? Or because of the bad apples that made bad press? Or...? TL;DR: Why are these parties considered dumb and dangerous?
In the current world, more and more people come out as non-binary, agender, gender-fluid, transgender and so on. I think for that reason, some people prefer not having a “gender reveal” party because we are assuming the child’s gender who is not old enough to speak to their gender. Would I call this dangerous as OP suggests? No. But some people will. I think the danger may be in people seeing their children only through the scope of one gender - which can skew the way one raises their child. Now THAT can be dangerous. A baby girl versus boy shouldn’t be raised differently. However, I feel that it’s a beautiful time to have parties when one is pregnant - and if one is aware that their child’s gender may be different than the birth assumption... then it can be an inclusive celebration. Maybe some people will have pink, blue, green balloons - or maybe some will have just pink balloons but might be open to the idea that this doesn’t mean anything about the child’s actual future recognized gender. But.. some people just want to boycott it altogether. I think that’s ridiculous. I’ll celebrate my child’s birth but I don’t care if he/she/they decide they’re trans/cis/non-binary etc in the future. Not everything has to be all or nothing people, context and intention matter too.
So MOST happen to be over the top in terms of gendered reveals, but op said they’re becoming dangerous and dumb, not that they all are. It’s just, when stupid people have dangerous explosions and pyrotechnics for a babies gender and then starts a huge wildfire, because they broke laws and common sense, it really shows lol