Narcissistic parenting

By CheeseMakesMeFart - 04/08/2022 06:00 - United States

Today, my parents kept on trying to create drama in my long-distance relationship,and telling me that my life is a mess. But when I tell them they played a huge part in my crippling anxiety, they change the topic. FML
I agree, your life sucks 810
You deserved it 88

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So something that gets advised a lot in narcissistic parents’ forums that I think is super useful advice for you here: grey rocking. Avoid interacting with the problem people where possible. If you must talk to them (such as family gatherings for extended relatives you want to keep in touch with), keep it brief and only about the topic at hand. If you absolutely must interact with them for an extended conversation, keep your answers limited to as few words as possible and communicate in as boring and factual a way possible. The goal here is to try and make the problem people lose interest. Crapstirrers are gonna stir but you can still deal with it for better or worse. Whatever method for dealing with your family you pick though, I hope that you can find peace with yourself.

Sounds to me like they're proving your point. FYL :(

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Sounds to me like they're proving your point. FYL :(

So something that gets advised a lot in narcissistic parents’ forums that I think is super useful advice for you here: grey rocking. Avoid interacting with the problem people where possible. If you must talk to them (such as family gatherings for extended relatives you want to keep in touch with), keep it brief and only about the topic at hand. If you absolutely must interact with them for an extended conversation, keep your answers limited to as few words as possible and communicate in as boring and factual a way possible. The goal here is to try and make the problem people lose interest. Crapstirrers are gonna stir but you can still deal with it for better or worse. Whatever method for dealing with your family you pick though, I hope that you can find peace with yourself.

Don't worry -- she's probably not cheating on you. What are the chances she'd meet a local guy who has his shit together? 40% tops! So, relax.