By CashChamp20 - This FML is from back in 2011 but it's good stuff - United States
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Stingy douches? Maybe the girls legitimately don't want fancy gifts from their boyfriends. Maybe he doesn't have very much money. Maybe he just wants to show that material things don't matter. Just because you get what you think is a "better" gift, doesn't mean their boyfriend is stingy. Sorry about ranting.
66 - I'm sort of getting an idea of how the dynamic of relationships work. Most girls are bit he's that want material things. Guys enjoy loving and don't think materials are important. When the girl does not love the guy he cheats. Girls want things from guys and do not receive so do not love the guy and cheat to get stuff like this stupid necklace. Guys are the jerks or the women? I say women.
I don't see anything wrong with it because we don't know the whole story. Was it the girl's birthday? Is the friend straight or is he gay? I can't really judge til I know the full story. I gave a friend of mine (girl but she is bi and I'm bi) a heart necklace but it was for her birthday and I do love her, yet as a friend. Why does giving a heart pendant have to seem like the guy wants to get with her? Maybe he loves her like a friend. There are guys that do love girls as just friends. Kind of like a brotherly, sisterly love.
Maybe she is so in love with you that she only sees the beauty of the necklace and not the possible implications from the guy friend.
I don't care how in love she is with OP, how could you not see someone essentially declaring a love for her as a nonexistent threat? But maybe that's just me being male and not understanding that a heart is in fact not relative to love and is just meant to be a token a friendship :| Explanation?
My best guy friend gave me a necklace once and my ex went mental about it.. My best friend is gay! OP may be overreacting or he may be totally justified, nothing is ever black and white. If it was a gift for no reason I'd be pissed but if it's her birthday or something and her friend knew she wanted that specific necklace I don't really see the problem.
No, obviously all men are pigs and are only interested in sex. What appears to be irrational jealousy on the OPs part is actually astute observation of the dynamic of the girlfriend and her friend's relationship. The OP doesn't want to exercise a level of control bordering that of an abuser, he just really cares about her!
if ur in a serious relationship, there should be no other really close "friends" of the opposite sex. and especially if there r heart shaped necklaces involved. it never will work out if there is some other guy, there should only be one best friend n that's the person ur datin. I've lasted 3 yrs in a relationship wit this point of view n it's wonderful
Seriously. I love heart necklaces, so unless the guy friend was actually showing other signs that he wanted to be more than friends with me, I would just assume he was being nice and knew what I liked. I suppose if he randomly got it for her with absolutely no occasion and he does things like this somewhat often, then I would wonder.
and 176, that's nice that you think of your other that way, but not everybody only wants one person to be close to. It's okay to be like best friends with people other than whoever you're with, even if they're the opposite sex. And what if you ever break up? Then you don't have anybody that you're close to. What then?
vanillagirl, my best friend is female, I'm a straight guy, she's been in a relationship for 6 months with her boyfriend, I'm still one of her best friends but of course by the look of things you would have to have the point if view you do because of who your boyfriend is (I'm guessing extremely popular with all the girls wanting him). Sometimes a person can have a really close friendship with a friend of the opposite sex and still have a healthy relationship with their partner
this is why people dont understand why relationships dont last anymore and everyone is getting divorced.. people need to understand that a serious relationship.. not just a stupid high school one.. will only last if both partners make an effort and sacrifices... accepting a necklace from another guy is a recipe for disaster.. me and my gf only have out with our close group of friends of the same sex and everything is perfect that way.... i hang out with my guy friends when im not with her.. and she hangs out with her girlfriends and we are happy
Regardless of the other guy's intentions, he should trust his girlfriend likes it because it's a cute necklace worth wearing and not the possible symbolism, plus it shouldn't matter unless she actually cheats. There is nothing wrong with wearing a gift. If a girl gave it to her no one would think twice. Maybe the girl were a secret lesbian, but no one thinks of that. It doesn't matter either way.
best friends...? well just get a heart bracelet from a "girl" & if she cares then remind her of hers!
well if she knows she isnt going to do anything with him whats the problem
This tells me you should have been the one who got her the necklace. Step up your game if you want to keep her!
i can tell by the fact that it bothers you that you care about her.. honestly it doesnt get better.. ive been with girls like that.. dont waste your effort you can do better.. she doesnt have a heart if she will hurt you like that.. a real girl wont take jewellery from other guys man.. dont listen to these people.. it doesnt have to be an occassion... accepting jewellery from other guys is never ok.. my gf right now would never do that.. and neither would i and we are happy.. just dump her and keep looking there are so many good girls out there.. save your love for one of them