By kat99 - 15/3/2021 21:30

Great parenting, mom

Today, as always, I have autism and it is physically painful for me to make eye contact. I read that you can solve this by looking at the person’s ears or nose. Except my mom can somehow tell when I’m doing this, and she yells and screams at me for not looking her in the eye. FML
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By  teg3481  |  5

I do not have autism, but it is also difficult for me to make eye contact. I generally look at the eyebrows or I look at the direction of eyes, but slightly unfocused.

By  intorvertedmoose  |  8

I'm sorry, you're going through this. I have a sibling with autism and I cant imagine being such a jerk about not being able to look in the eyes. I dont know how helpful this is, but I have issues public speaking. I was taught that if you look at the eyebrows or right in between them, it looks very similar to eye contact. I hope she stops being a jerk, I wish you all the best ♡

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By  teg3481  |  5

I do not have autism, but it is also difficult for me to make eye contact. I generally look at the eyebrows or I look at the direction of eyes, but slightly unfocused.

By  intorvertedmoose  |  8

I'm sorry, you're going through this. I have a sibling with autism and I cant imagine being such a jerk about not being able to look in the eyes. I dont know how helpful this is, but I have issues public speaking. I was taught that if you look at the eyebrows or right in between them, it looks very similar to eye contact. I hope she stops being a jerk, I wish you all the best ♡

By  swimlime  |  1

I have autism as well. Eye contact is definitely difficult for me too. I tend to look right above or right under their eyes. So I'll look at the eyelid/eyebrow area or lower lashes area. It still looks like eye contact but keeps it to where you can hopefully be more comfortable. It also sounds like your mom needs educated on autism. I hope things get better. Also, there's a page on Facebook called Adults with Autism that may also help you.

By  SJKatt  |  10

Also autistic here. Your mom is abusive. It's not her being "a huge jerk" - forcing someone to communicate the way you want them to communicate even if it pains them is abuse. She might also be a good mom sometimes and have good and bad moments, but this particular moment is an abusive one. I don't know what steps you can take with her, as I do not know the dynamic. But please know that you don't have to take this kind of abuse from anyone else, outside of the home. (Technically you don't have to take it in home either, but not everyone can stand up to a parent or leave the homestead)