Today, a guy I know asked me out after me losing 75lbs. I declined because I don’t want to be with someone who only wants me for my body. I asked him, “Where was this energy two years ago when I was 75lbs heavier?” He replied, “Can you blame me?” And people wonder why us women choose the bear. FML
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Questions about your love life, a burnt turkey and the cousin who knows everything: Thanksgiving, a contact sport.
Today, a guy I was into and who denied me because he “saw me as a friend only” began to date another girl. I asked him, “Why her and not me?” and he wouldn’t tell me. After pestering him, he finally caved in, saying, “Fine, plus sized girls are not my thing. Happy now?” So in other words, I have to lose weight to find love. FML
Today, the man I've liked for so long asked me out on a date. Three years ago I fell for him and he denied me unless I "lost 100lbs” Now I've lost about 85lbs (not because of him, but for myself) and he wants to give me the time of day. I still like him, but I feel like I have to watch my weight to keep him if I say “Yes.” FML
Today, the guy who friendzoned me asked me why I’ve been acting distant towards him. I told him that I refuse to give boyfriend benefits to someone who made it clear that we’re just friends any longer. He responded with, “Well, if you weren’t built like Lizzo before her weight loss, I wouldn’t have friendzoned you!” FML
Today, after my ex helped me drop over a hundred pounds, I broke up with him because I looked and felt so much better, and knew I could do better. Turns out he was the only thing keeping me slim, as I've put back on over twenty pounds. I asked him to take me back and he told me to fuck off. FML
Today, I realized how fucked up the dating world is when I noticed girls wanting to be all over me once I lost 65 pounds. This girl who put me in the friendzone three years ago is now wanting to latch onto me. It makes me want to not try because apparently, love is conditional. I quit. FML
Today, my Tinder date said it wasn’t gonna work, all because, I “need to lose some extra pounds.” Last week, I'd had another Tinder date and he told me he’d continue seeing me if I dropped at least 30 pounds. I think I get the hint now. FML
Today, my now-ex girlfriend showed me a picture where she was 120lbs overweight and asked me if I would still date her if she ever looked like that again. Being honest, I said “No.” She broke it off with me because of that. Apparently I lack “good moral character” and “it’s giving red flag.” FML
Today, I came to realize that dating as an overweight girl sucks. I can’t get a guy to commit/stay to save my life. I go on dating apps, and when we exchange photos or meet in person they abandon me. I know that this will change if I lose weight, but is it wrong for me to want to be loved for who I am? FML
Today, I saw a friend’s Instagram post. She's lost so much weight since the last time I saw her, so I slid in her DMs hoping to score a date. It was going quite well until I asked her out and she responded, “You’re only asking me out because I’m skinny now, right? You’re barking up the wrong tree” and she blocked me. FML
Today, I was called fatphobic for rejecting an overweight man who asked me on a date. I don’t know how to force myself to be attracted to fat people. There’s just nothing there. FML
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imsomadimadeanaccountforthis 1
The bear analogy is for men being dangerous not for you to use it cause some guy is aware that he's not attracted to larger people. Dont use that to try and make yourself feel better about getting rejected when its supposed to be used in regards to violence. God forbid someone knows what they are attracted to and it wasnt you at the time.
Mad Jack 4
I've got 300 pounds on my rips. Wanna go on a date?
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Pmyers225 3
get over yourself, a guy asked you out and you got stuck up about it, and people wonder why we are happy you chose the bear
Mad Jack 4
I've got 300 pounds on my rips. Wanna go on a date?
imsomadimadeanaccountforthis 1
The bear analogy is for men being dangerous not for you to use it cause some guy is aware that he's not attracted to larger people. Dont use that to try and make yourself feel better about getting rejected when its supposed to be used in regards to violence. God forbid someone knows what they are attracted to and it wasnt you at the time.
copalolita 17
Girl you’re better off without that misogynist pig. He obviously thinks love and relationships are transactional. “I’ll only date you if you look a certain way.” How pathetic.
SAgirl 24
TMI
FluffythePink 24
Getting bent out of shape because other people have (gasp and clutches pearls) personal preferences is a ridiculous approach to life. Grow up or grow old alone and bitter.
Kylaisnefarious 22
The point is either way she is still the same person and if he wasn't interested in her before, why is he now? Only based off of attraction and not her personality. Why would you choose to be with someone who has no real personal interest in you?
eellik 12
Have you ever, or would you, date a man who was in the same weight category as you were? Because if not, then that's double standards.
Taurus_chicKa 15
All these YDI votes disgust me. That's what's wrong with society. Women are expected to look a certain way, and if they don't, they're automatically considered unattractive and not worthy of a compassionate relationship. I understand people have to be attracted to their partners, but the world is too shallow.