By tellyc - 26/04/2016 02:36 - Canada - Campbell River

Today, once again someone pointed out how much my brother and boyfriend look alike. FML
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tellyc 27

Hi guys! This is my FML. Basically whenever someone new meets my boyfriend or sees my brother they always comment how much they look alike. Recently every time I see my boyfriend from afar I think he's my brother so it freaks me out just a little bit. Glad to hear it's not really uncommon!

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whysobeachy 37

I kind of feel you, OP. My dad and my boyfriend have many, MANY things in common. It makes me wonder if something's wrong with me.

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SuperWhoMarvLock 22

I red this thing that people tend to be drawn towards others who share similar traits with the important people in their lives. For example, a girl might be drawn towards someone who resembles her dad or brother, because that's what's she's comfortable with. So, I guess it's not uncommon. :/

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whysobeachy 37

I kind of feel you, OP. My dad and my boyfriend have many, MANY things in common. It makes me wonder if something's wrong with me.

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Dick_diamond 22

Your subconscious found an incest-free way for you to date your brother..

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Wizardo 33

Well there is some theory out there but its quite accurate saying that we look for traits in partners that our parents possess. Probably because we associate our parents traits with successful partnership when we're very young.

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whysobeachy 37

Thank **** for that. Some of my friends have made Freud-type jokes, and that seriously made me doubt my sanity.

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lifes_rough23 8

Agreed. we subconsciously pick a man that is similar to our father or father figure, depending how close you are to them.

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whysobeachy 37

I have a *really* close relationship with my dad. Alrighty, that explains it. I'm thankful for this FML.

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Suaria 38

I don't think that is necessarily true. The only long term relationship I had, the guy was the complete opposite personality wise and looks wise from my brother and dad.

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lexos 16

That's pretty common, my brothers girlfriend looks a lot like my mom (even likes a lot of similar things) and my sisters boyfriend looks a lot like my dad when he had the same age

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mfmylifesrsly 29

I'm a daddy's girl. He's such a great man and has sacrificed so much for our family. Many of my exs possessed his qualities. Not so much looks wise though, but personality.

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SuperWhoMarvLock 22

I red this thing that people tend to be drawn towards others who share similar traits with the important people in their lives. For example, a girl might be drawn towards someone who resembles her dad or brother, because that's what's she's comfortable with. So, I guess it's not uncommon. :/

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wecantfixthat 5

Oedipal Fixation

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jakewill7 7

Maybe they are the same person ?

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fleckney26 25

Don't worry, I was often mistaken to be my ex's brother and her parents child too

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fleckney26 25

Don't worry, I was often mistaken to be my ex's brother and her parents child too

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EatZombies 10

continuing from top reply above- I remember learning about the exact same thing in AP psychology last year. Guys can be more attracted to those who resemble or act like their mothers and girls can be attracted to guys who look or resemble their fathers. It's a weird psychological thing we have going on as a result of attachment as children but it's no reason to be ashamed. also, note that I am not saying that ALL people are like that. It's for some people and for some not. It can even go through your unconscious processes so you don't notice it yet it's there possibly affecting your choices. Our brains are weird :p

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tellyc 27

Ahh I've been told multiple times I act like his mom!

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Suaria 38

That's what Freud believed. Most of his theories have been disproven. I've never had a significant other that looked or acted like my father or brother.

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SUN_lover 19

Wow! Your comment made me realize that why am I so comfortable with my boyfriend! He is gentle, kind, loving, caring and down to earth person, just like my father. I remember telling him how much he reminds me of my father and how I don't miss my father that bad anymore. Well, this unbelievable!

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whysobeachy 37

It kind of IS a big deal, you know. That's probably why OP (and the people who moderated this) thought this was worthy of being an FML.

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