By punkchicka4 - 02/03/2015 23:37 - United States - Dayton

Today, I was demoted as a bridesmaid in a wedding because I dyed my hair, and didn't ask permission from the bride to do so. The bride is my sister. FML
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punkchicka4 13

Hey guys!! I'm surprised that this got published. I didn't dye my hair a weird color or anything. I went from a dark blond to just brunette because my sister actually suggested it months ago. She's been unbearable throughout this whole thing, but it's okay. I'm still going to the wedding, but as a guest now. :/

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Your sister needs to get a grip.

Dalboz 26

well, I feel like we don't get the whole story here. I don't think she would have been mad if you dyed your hair black or blond. Rather dying it a preposterous colour like pink or green would make her mad. Which in that case, I'd have to agree with her. while it is your hair and your decision, when dying your hair with a bold colour (especially if you weren't seen with it before) takes attention from the people around you. It's her special day, and she'd like the attention to be focused on her and her husband. Plus if it isn't some crazy colour, I'm sure it's just nerves. If it was already all planned out, small changes like this tend to make the bride/groom nervous. It's really not uncommon and you should probably talk to her about it. I hope she'll calm down and you can make it up

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Bridezilla at her worst. Hopefully she calms down and realizes her mistake!

She better. That's just stupid.

Just for the record, depending on the dye color, this might be a completely legitimate response. No one wants neon pink in their ceremony ;D

Speak for yourself.

Pre-planning for a wedding always leaves one with frayed nerves. Hopefully, your sister fixes this silly mistake.

N3766 20

maybe she thinks you'll get more attention than her..

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What color did you dye your hair that could possibly make her do that? Was it a drastic color?

I guess I could understand IF it was a crazy wild color. But if its not, well than that's just crazy.

Dalboz 26

well, I feel like we don't get the whole story here. I don't think she would have been mad if you dyed your hair black or blond. Rather dying it a preposterous colour like pink or green would make her mad. Which in that case, I'd have to agree with her. while it is your hair and your decision, when dying your hair with a bold colour (especially if you weren't seen with it before) takes attention from the people around you. It's her special day, and she'd like the attention to be focused on her and her husband. Plus if it isn't some crazy colour, I'm sure it's just nerves. If it was already all planned out, small changes like this tend to make the bride/groom nervous. It's really not uncommon and you should probably talk to her about it. I hope she'll calm down and you can make it up

Seconded, it's her day and I understand her fearing that attention will be diverted from her to you. Can you imagine? You're nervous, you're excited, this is a huge moment in your life, you've been planning it for ages, and your sister becomes a spotlight for people to crow over her new hair color. And this is coming from someone who has next to no interest in marriages or in getting married; it's not entirely illogical for her to be upset.

I agree, assuming that the hair was dyed an unnatural color. I would have been absolutely furious with my bridesmaids had they dyed their hair a blindingly noticeable color. What if the hair really clashes with the color theme? Will all eyes be drawn to the hair instead of the intended subject of the day? Will people be talking about how beautiful the bride was or how her sister suddenly had blue hair? Weddings are usually a pretty classy occasion. I don't see why the OP couldn't have waited until after her sister's wedding.

I don’t get this attention thing. When I got married, I was not obsessed with people only looking at me and my husband, in fact I was quite self-conscious about it. To me, a wedding ceremony is not about people ogling at you in awe but a merry get together of the people you love. However, I would not have been too pleased if one of my bridesmaids did something to her hair that was going to completely clash with her dress, without consulting me first. I still wanted nice group pictures. If that’s not the case, clearly the bride had an overreaction.

amberv61 22

What if her hair was a vibrant color already? Op could possibly have had faded blue hair when her sister asked her to be a bridesmaid. She could have gotten it redyed to make the color darker which still sucks for ops sister but there is potential she knew already

Doesn't matter what color it was. This type of control-freak behavior is a sure indicator of a bridezilla.

If a simple hair color makes a diff screw them, be yourself no matter what

We don't know if it was a simple of drastic color, the OP really should enlighten us with that fact. The whole FML would make more sense then.

I like the irony here. "Be yourself" yet dying your hair implies changing your natural hair color. So are you technically "being yourself" ?

#44 being yourself isn't staying the way you've always been. It's expressing how you feel yourself. If that makes any sense.

I think it's more likely a sister would do that than a friend, because siblings often compete with each other, and she may feel you're going to steal the limelight. But since she's you're sister she will also eventually want you in her wedding

abbylouise_x3 7

Well, that's low.