By neuronerd - 16/12/2016 14:29

Today, I set the record for bringing in the most money for a charity event, and my boyfriend and I got back together. This would normally all be wonderful, but it was a bachelorette auction with the winner getting a date with me. My boyfriend didn't have the winning bid. FML
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neuronerd 28

I went to respond, but accidentally clicked on the next FML. But long story short, it's not a jealousy issue. It's that I know the guy who won, know he's interested in me, and was considering going out with him before I got back with my boyfriend. Now I feel bad that he's dropped a few hundred dollars for a date with me, when I know he was hoping for it to be a real date (no, not talking sex, just a potential to lead to more dates), but at least kids are getting to have a merry Christmas, because of his donation.

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Don't worry about the boyfriend thing. Those charities are usually just for fun, like a dinner and that's about it. Relax and explain the charity to the boyfriend.

dakid87 10

I think you are thinking too much into it.


I'm sure both your boyfriend and the guy that won the auction knows it's not going to turn into a serious relationship, that it was mostly for the benefit of charity

Ok, maybe I'm reading this wrong, but from what I understand... your ex-boyfriend and you got back together, you went to a charity bachelorette event where your boyfriend was one of the dates, so you paid as much money as you could hoping to get a date with him, instead you won a date with another guy, now you're worried your boyfriend will be upset; correct? If this is the case, both your boyfriend and yourself had to know that you may not actually get a winning date with your boyfriend, it was for charity though, so it doesn't really matter. You have two options, remind your boyfriend that it was for charity and you're not interested in this guy and happy you two are back together (if you actually have to explain this to your boyfriend then that's sad); or tell the guy you won the date with that a date isn't necessary as the whole point was money for charity (this is rude, but technically could be done because I'm sure the guy was only doing this for charity and doesn't actually want to date some random woman who already has a boyfriend). One other scenario is that you were the date being auctioned and your boyfriend didn't get the winning date with you and some other guy did (after re-reading I think that this scenario is more likely). If that's the case, everything I said above still applies.

usnwife 18

I believe it was the other way around, OP was the one being bid on, and another guy paid more than her bf did so the other guy won her date. But still, it shouldn't be an issue, and if it is, then maybe he should stay an ex...

Right, I realized that at the end, and said it would most likely be that scenario. Either way, it shouldn't be a problem.

dakid87 10

I think you are thinking too much into it.

Maybe you have a new boyfriend? The guy who literally values you more than your old one. And you know by how much in dollars and cents (hopefully, just dollars.)

What's that old lyric? Money can't buy me love.

That is a lyric, indeed. Two words: Melania Trump.

You do realize that this is for charity right? Just because he didn't have enough money doesn't mean that he doesn't value OP

Sorry I'm probably being really thick but if your boyfriend didn't have the winning bid then how did you end up back together? Unless you genuinely got back together, in which case it wouldn't really be an FML?

The "dates" that are auctioned off aren't necessarily real dates. If the purchased person had to have sex with their buyer, it'd be prostitution.

zeffra13 31

I'd say OP's boyfriend was pissed that she "went out with someone else" and broke up with her before she reminded him it's a fake date for charity.

Since when does a "real date" have to include sex???

Don't worry about the boyfriend thing. Those charities are usually just for fun, like a dinner and that's about it. Relax and explain the charity to the boyfriend.

If your boyfriend has an issue with helping with a charity, even if it's dinner and a movie with another man, well, then, that's his problem. You weren't together when it happened and now you have a commitment to the winner of the auction. It's a date, dates can be platonic.

Actually no. Dates are called dates for a reason. There is no such thing as a "platonic" date and if there was, it would be an unfair insult. If you ask me, this just sounds like some chick complaining that her boyfriend didn't spend enough money on her. in which case YDI because not all men can afford to express love in an amount of money. But hey that us my opinion and this is bound to get downvoted. Oh well.

Actually dates CAN be platonic. The very definition of date is a social OR romantic appointment. I often say I'm going on a date with my mom/dad/sister/friends/etc... My friend has gone on "dates" with two separate guys the same week, they both knew and were ok because they understood the dates were platonic. I get that not everyone sees "dates" that way (many view them as exclusively romantic like you), and there are "romantic" dates too. But in a charity auction, people are aware the date doesn't automatically mean they'll enter a serious relationship, make out, or have sex. They can hope for more (as this guy did), but in these situations nothing but platonic actions are guaranteed.

That being said, in this case I can understand OP (and her bf's) discomfort because she's aware the guy who won likes her and was hoping for more. My point was just that dates can be platonic, and charity events often do not guarantee anything more than a platonic date.

The only way I'd vote YLS on this is if someone else volunteered you for this event.

That sounds a lot like prostitution, I don't get who thought it was a good idea.

species4872 19

Prostitution? That's a bit harsh, they are merely two people sharing their time for charity. Very noble.