Never mix business with pleasure

By LiarLiarPantsOnFire - 17/12/2022 21:00

Today, the girl I work with, who I’ve developed feelings for, started dating another guy at work. She’d told me that she “doesn’t believe” in dating coworkers and she doesn’t “shit where she eats.” FML
I agree, your life sucks 834
You deserved it 269

Same thing different taste

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Here's the thing. Lots of men don't take "no" well. They can get persistent or violent. So women have learned that they *have* to give what sounds like an insurmountable excuse. "I don't date coworkers" or whatever. It's bullshit. But it's not her fault that she had to bullshit you, for fear that you'd make her life hell if she doesn't. Take it as a permanent "no" and don't try again with her, even if they break up. She's not interested in you. You have to just let it go.

She’s right, you know. Failure to follow her own advice will end badly for her. As for you? Start avoiding her and find someone better.

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She’s right, you know. Failure to follow her own advice will end badly for her. As for you? Start avoiding her and find someone better.

To be fair, lots of people have convictions that fall apart when they actually have to test them.

that's smart on her part. if you want to date her once she's single see if she has feelings for you and get another job. never date someone you work with. 9 out of 10 times it ends in disaster.

Here's the thing. Lots of men don't take "no" well. They can get persistent or violent. So women have learned that they *have* to give what sounds like an insurmountable excuse. "I don't date coworkers" or whatever. It's bullshit. But it's not her fault that she had to bullshit you, for fear that you'd make her life hell if she doesn't. Take it as a permanent "no" and don't try again with her, even if they break up. She's not interested in you. You have to just let it go.

Translation: you're not attractive enough to get her to shit where she eats. The other dude is so hot, she's pooping all over her dining room table! Strange turn of phrase, don't you think?

she's not into you at all. she could have just said no, but instead have you a crappy mean excuse. if she's cordial to you, just move on. if she's rude or mean to you now, then report them to mgmt if there's a no dating policy at work.

let her deal with the blowout when that relationship goes sour. DON'T date coworkers, cuz it always gets awkward to downright ugly when it ends and someone often loses their job

A friend asked me once, “Why would you care for someone that doesn’t care about you?” The question hurt at the time, but it got me thinking why I am the way I am.