Concerned parent

By trying - 24/09/2023 22:30 - United States

Today, I tried to nicely talk to my daughter about her rapid weight gain. Having a family history of weight-related illness, I felt it was necessary. I offered to get thyroid tests, teach her to buy healthy food, and start routine exercise. She told everyone I called her a cow and had fat-shamed her. FML
I agree, your life sucks 904
You deserved it 198

Same thing different taste

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Vesi 29

@RichardPencil No one.. not a single person deserves to be fat-shamed. *Especially* if it is actually health related. She might have hypothyroid and/or PCOS and many other possible *medical* reasons for rapid gain. OP, she feels attacked. Honestly, all you can do is leave it alone, now. Simply offer to help her when she is ready to work on her health and drop the subject. I will note you haven't mentioned if she is a teeanger or adult. Teenagers especially are emotionally delicate. I know it might upset you but it is her body and only she can decide what to do with it.

Saying what OP did is not fat-shaming, though.

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Unfortunately, that is the way she is perceiving it. Regardless of her age, I can understand. She will see it as an attack. Give her time. You've talked to her. When (and if) she wants to change it she will. As someone who has struggled with weight for 10 years - it is upto me to know what I want and do what is necessary to get there. No one else telling me about my weight will change my weight. You've shared your concern, now give her time and don't mention it again. I will also add at some point you may need to have a heart-to-heart to explain you weren't calling her a fat cow OR alternatively, compliment her when she shows you a new outfit and ALWAYS support her no matter what size she is. Parenting is hard. You are doing fine OP.

You did fat-shame her, even if she deserved it. Did you actually call her a cow?

Vesi 29

@RichardPencil No one.. not a single person deserves to be fat-shamed. *Especially* if it is actually health related. She might have hypothyroid and/or PCOS and many other possible *medical* reasons for rapid gain. OP, she feels attacked. Honestly, all you can do is leave it alone, now. Simply offer to help her when she is ready to work on her health and drop the subject. I will note you haven't mentioned if she is a teeanger or adult. Teenagers especially are emotionally delicate. I know it might upset you but it is her body and only she can decide what to do with it.

Saying what OP did is not fat-shaming, though.